Hello - Yes, another new one

Hi Everyone,

I'm so glad that I stumbled across this site.

My wife and I have reached the conclusion that the best thing for both of us is to split after 2 years 2 months of marriage. Not long I know, and I suppose my situation is not as scary as many other people on here.

But I feel terrible right now, the future is this great yawning chasm! I'll follow this up with my (our) full story later. I'd be interested in a few opinions.

Thanks,

Tim.

Hi Tim

welcome to wiki - you have found a good place here, we will try and support and help you as much as we can, as well as offering advice, practical and otherwise.

Divorce is a long and emotional journey, but we are here to help you along the way - you are not alone.

take care

Ruby

Hiya Tim, and welcome.

You are not alone belive it or not, up untill 3 weeks ago i thought we were happy in our 11 year marriage just to be told out of the blue it was over and she did'nt love me anymore. Tbh, this was my fault and is another story entirley, but just in case you missed it, settle in, relax, and i hope we can make you feel as at home as these guys made me.

Matt

Ok, I'm probably writing this more for therapeutic purposes than anything else, but here goes.

I am 37, my wife is 32 and we got married in April 2006, no kids.

In a nutshell my job took us to Canada, where things seemed to go sour between us. This was aggravated by her Underactive Thyroid condition which leaves
her very tired all the time and meant she was unable to get a job over here. It also means that her libido has all but disappeared, which is a nightmare
for me and my healthy sex drive!

Eventually she went back to the UK for 2 months to rest at her Mum's. The plan was that she'd come back and join me in Canada when she felt better. But during the time we were apart our phone calls were brief and emotionless and I just knew something was terribly wrong between us. I travelled back to the UK last month so we could have a weekend away together and go to marriage counselling, but this didn't really help. This morning we agreed to part and we have this weekend to think about how we do this.

There is way, way more to this story, but I'm not sure I've got the energy to go there right now. Other important factors are,

1. Children - I want them and I thought she did at first. But I think the risks associated with her condition are frightening her off, and now I'm not
sure she really wanted them in the first place.

2. Our home - I own a flat in London where we used to stay, but now she wants to stay up in Newcastle to be close to family and recuperate. Unfortunately there's nowhere for her to stay up there and we can't afford to rent a place. She also refuses to come back to Canada despite the fact my boss says I can work from the flat for 3 days a week. As you can imagine this is taking quite a toll on her health.

Underneath all this I really have the feeling that her feelings have changed towards me over the last couple of years. There's no affection, love or support
there any more. On the other hand I tried to give her all the support I could while she was feeling rough, maybe I was even over affectionate, who knows.

So at this point I believe we'll be happier apart, because we haven't been happy together for some time and considering it's quite a short marriage with no
kids involved, we will hopefully both recover from it quickly.

As always, there are two sides to a story and I'm sure her version of events would read very differently. But I still care for her greatly and just want her to be ok.

Thanks for listening everyone.

Tim.