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I have looked at this website for a long time and never quite had the courage to post. My husband walked out on our marriage with no warning 6 months ago.We had been together for 12 years, married for 6. I just didn't see it coming. He said he had found someone who 'showed him how much love was really out there'. We have spent 45 mins together since. Some days I genuinely hate him, others I miss him terribly. A month ago he emailed and said he thought divorce was the 'best, most logical option'. Err no. I don't think it's logical at all. I have suffered intermittently from depression throughout my adult life and right now, despite being on meds and starting counselling, I feel awful. Everything is so difficult. I feel like I have koined an alien race and if one more person says 'At least you didn't have children' I'm going to punch them!

Hi there and welcome to you.

You're so right about the statement about children-had it said to me over the last few months and I still don't know how i didn't kill someone!!!

I can totally relate to the rollercoaster of feelings and i have found it does get better BUT with time.

I've just started to post in the last couple of days and i would encourage you to do the same.

Take care
Mirfield:)

Hi there

yes, happened to most of us, didnt see it coming. More like they were too devious to let us! Thats the first thing, dont let him drag you down, and whats the 'showed him how much love was out there' business!!! Thought i'd have a bit of her husband, more like. Trying to blame you, as they all do, if you let them. Regardless of children etc, this is an awful time. And sorry for you.

I think some of the gut wrenching tales that are on these forums, should be played to all those sods, at final hearing.

As always rambling Joy x

should rename as rambling rose.