Hello

Hi,

my names Helen & I'm finally at the point where it's time to call the solicitors in!

My life is such a car crash that Kerry Katona seems to have it sorted!

I have 2 children from a previous long term relationship & 1 child (22 months) with my husband. I guess I have just been in free fall for many years, gone with the flow & made decisions that I now have to live with. This isn't really just hindsight, it was touch & go from the start but as I say, I was in free fall. Still, can't undo whats done but it's time to change the future!

I've spent most of our married life 'trying'. Trying to make things work, trying to tread on egg shells (not because of abuse but just to avoid arguments when I say the wrong thing), trying again, giving it one last go (then another!). At present my husband sleeps in my older sons room & my son with me. This started out as a few nights only.My older son has type 1 diabetes so I have to check his blood sugar during the night & he moved in with me during a particularly unstable time. The few nights have turned into a few months! I'm not perfect, I used to scream & shout when I was upset. Luckily his behaviour no longer upsets me (i'm totally detached) so this is now very rare.


For a long time I hoped we'd be able to get back what we once had. I now know that will never happen. I no longer love him or even like him. He leaves for work before anyone is up & comes home once we're in bed. He works at the weekend too if I'm not working. He doesn't see his own son other than at the weekend & doesn't speak to my older children. He rarely speaks to me.

I'm now just waiting for the time to be right to tell him I'm going to see a solicitor.

If you have got this far, then thank-you!

Hi Helen

Welcome to wiki as the song says youve come to the right place

Sorry its got to this stage lots of us have been and are going through it this stage also, consisting of those who knew it was over and those who had no idea anything was wrong with the marriage, were all in the dizzy road.

What may be best at the moment is if you can get into chat at some stage and ask out right if some one you can talk to you in the serious disussion room, people can be invited in as when needed we dont all know the answers but we know soomeone who may if things are going to fast ask us to slow down so you can get into it.