This is all new to me a feeling a bit lost

Hi, my husband has just left me for another woman leaving me alone with our two children aged 3 and 1. I am finding everything really difficult to cope with and feel like I am the only person this is happening to. I went a bit mad at him when I discovered the other person was involved and now he is taking me to Court to have contact with the kids. I have managed to get him to agree that the children will have nothing to do with the other person as he has only been gone for 8 weeks. I know the kids need to see their dad and I would never stop him I am just so upset that he could have moved in so quickly. I thought that everything was okay with our marriage and that we were happy. I just feel really lost and don't know where to go from here or if I will ever get over this. Would love to chat to people in the same or similar situation.

Hi there mummyof2

Sorry to hear your story... keep hanging there.. you will find this site (as I did) of very helpful, and friendly people who will be able to either help you through.. or assist.

I am sorry I can not offer an advice as my divorce involved no kids / 3rd partner.

But hang on in there, things do seem to get tough, but I am sure with the support of the people on here, offering support, advice and guidance, you will come out shining, and certainly, would be thinking "his loss"

Chin up lady.. hope things work out for the best for you and the kids.

:O)

Dear Mo2,

Sorry to hear your story, what your ex has done to you and your angels is unforgivable, and you are rightly angry and upset.

That bit over with, phew, now what to do next, sure every day when you think about this, and I imagine it is hard to think about anything else, the anger and upset will take you over, but you will need at some point to turn to the practical stuff, if you haven’t already.

I don’t know that you are, but if you are using the access thing as a way to get back at him, it is likely to prove problematic. You need to get things straight and to get to a place where you know what is going to happen with your arrangements as much as you can right now.

Get your self prepared to deal with things one at a time, tick them off, access, money, house, car, possessions, debt, divorce plans, etc. I found that having something to focus on helped me stay sane, and also helped me get my life back in order, slowly, can’t say that this does the emotional stuff.

If you are already way down this track, then good for you, we all have our up and down days, your children are so young, and it wasn’t supposed to be like this, draw strength from the love that you have for them.

Good luck

GM