Miscarriage and it's over?

scared, i'm so sorry for what you're going through .. and if he gets mad when you cry, from my experience i'd say think very seriously if you want him in your life. My husband told me he would walk out of a restaurant on me when i was upset about something once. i never felt quite the same about him after that. took me nearly five years to leave because of complications and i'm still in two minds. i hope your husband comes to his senses about this and takes his responsibilities a bit more seriously, you deserve at least that much. take care xx

SnS,

I am in the middle of counselling right now, and it has been really helpful understanding what has been going on not just in my marriage but in me. I wish I had done this years ago and I cannot help but think that both you and your OH would each get something out of counselling - be it together or apart. Tell him you need his support to take you to counselling - you may not like doing it this way, but getting him through the door is the first step to facing up to his responsibilities - believe me - we are all scared when life throws a brick at you but hey, we can't run from everything, and will live to regret things later.

So Big hug - and if you looked like Mike who posted above I would be worried - but as he says - you have your life ahead of you

XXX

Dadsrus

My heart goes out to you SnS. I too suffered a miscarriage and didn't talk to my husband about it and it ate me up neither of us realised how far on I was and it was very traumatic. But he too needed space. We are now eight years on and getting divorced. I should have left then, it was never the same for us. Don't let this happen to you both by not talking. It may be painful but it wasn't the fault of either of you. I just happened, if you talk honestly and openly you will get through this, hopefully together. But if not then you have not lost anything at least you have tried.

Dadsrus is right try councelling. I was offered this but thought I could cope on my own. I didn't see the point of it. I was wrong, it would have helped enormously, to get me through the pain of it, physically and emotionally. I am in councelling now and it is making a difference.

Please please give yourself some slack, a miscarriage is a horrible thing to go through, but it does get better with time. Be kind to each other and if he can't help you then as the others have said maybe you are better on your own. That sounds harsh but at 31 you have a whole life ahead of you. Don't do as I did and waste it on someone who is not worthy of your love and affection. In 10 years time it will be harder to make a new life. Not impossible as anyone on here will tell you, just harder because by then you are more set in your ways and more careful about relationships.

Take care, have a hug from me and give yourself a hug, you deserve it for being able to open up to us.

I hope the chemo goes well, a friend of mine had to have it when she had a miscarriage as it was ectopic and it was the only way to deal with it. A year on and she is as good as new.!

safandscared , I am going to put a word in for you tonight ,say a pray for you, You are brave. I have to say we have had our fair share of the big C , my cousin had a tumour that grew with the baby she had to have a termination .
I have recently read about Adrian the Baldy blogger he had leukaemia .
My son had leukaemia and he is in remission now, my mother had breast cancer, my father had cancer of the stomach. I slid down the wall when they told me about my son though.
I have just said to Dylan your life can change in a heart beat , then read this.
I know how down you must be feeling right now, especially as someone close to you has reacted . I am so sorry for him also, it is such a shock .
There is help and support you are not on your own always remember this .
You will have to save your strength and fight and focus on getting through the treatment . It broke my heart when my son said why have i got this unhappy face ? he was 7 years old at the time. It was the drugs I want you to know that children get through this treatment , then you think I will get through this treatment also be positive.

You have got a lot of loss to deal with right now , more than the average person has to deal with in a lifetime. You just try to take it easy and rest up also I hope an angel comes your way .
This is just a very rough time you are going through I promise you it is not always going to be like this. I always say illness or disability is not all of a person , it may seem to consume you at a time and seem to take over your life,however it will not always be like this.

Sending you warm & positive wishes your way. I have had prayers said by th elocal community for my son , also a nun came to see me from France she said a special prayer . I am not deeply religious , I just have faith and pray.

Godbless you .
Lyndamac