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17 years together and 10 years married have great wee girl of 9 years old. Husband walked out 7 weeks ago - reason he was 43 and felt life passing him by he needed some space to work things out in his head. As we both have at times stressful lives i let him go ahead with this. The only difference of opinion we have had recently was down to the fact i didnt think he was making time for his family.
Work commitments and social life seemed to be coming first.
We are not a couple who have arguments
My husband has been a proud family man up until now.
From day 1 he has been a very hands on father, and our daughter thinks he is her idol.
Last week i received a seperation agreement through the door irritreviable breakdown of marriage and no hope of reconciliation. I am totaly amazed when a child is involved that (1) i was not aware of any problem, certainly not one to this extent (2) i have never been given the chance of reconciliation.
Have appointment with lawyer this week.
I am very very worried about our financial situation my husband earns a great deal more money than i do,
his career allowed him to earn more and climb the ladder more, whilst my work was not well paid, so i work part time as well as term time. We live in scotland and from what i can tell this does not go for much.
We I am absolutly terrified as to the future ahead of us.
I am totaly disgusted as to the way in which my husband has
done this - Why does someone do this without at least trying
especialy when a child is involved.

Hi Welcome to Wiki
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. You have come to the right place for advice. Don't feel able to answer your questions at the mo as having a bad day myself but know that there are many on here who will be able to advise you. But like you, cannot understand how they can do this to their kids. My kids are my world - don't understand and never will. xx

Hi

I dont understand them myself, im sure there is a reason, which you will eventually find, as for laws in scotland, i can be of no help, someone soon will help you, and you say you are seeing a lawyer soon, why not take advantage of the free half hour with a wiki solicitor, tel no. at the top.
I did and they were of great help. No pressure. All i can say is keep posting there are some amazing people here.


Take care
Joy xx