Am I being taken for a fool

Hi Saffron

If you find they don't help it might be worth getting your GP to prescribe anti-depressants - I've never wanted to go down that route but after being on sleeping tablets for six weeks after I discovered my husbands affair my GP put me on them and they have made a big difference. I still have really bad days but there are many more better days when I can cope.

As far as feeling used I know how you feel - I stupidly slept with my husband when he returned to the UK two months ago and felt terrible afterwards. On his return abroad we started to get 'emotionally closer' by telephone but he has gradually started to become distant and quite nasty and I am left feeling hurt and rejected again. I know how you feel - once you've sent that text or whatever you regret it but it is a real need to feel close to that person who you have been so close to for so long.

Don't beat yourself up about it - it's a process, a long process and we are all human.

Love Linda

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Hi Saffron

Keep positive and stay with us, we are all here for you, all going thru the motions. You will get there, keep talking, even if it is twoddle, (fav word right now) cos thats all i do, same thing, if i have said the same thing once, ive said it a million times. Be strong, take care.

Joy.

Hey Saff,

Keep your chin up hun, im sure things will get better.

CK

Hi Saffron
I was just the same having kept my ex for years, put him through uni the lot. He announced he didn't love me anymore last NOVember even after everything I'd done. I was still sleeping with him until the last night before he left and was in complete deniel about the whole thing. He walked out a few weeks ago. At first I was devastated and now I realise how used I was and am getting on with life as a singly...and enjoying every minute. I really wish i'd got rid of him months ago. Try to remember that, if you are strong enough to support this guy, you are strong enough to do without him too. You deserve better and one day will be surprised at how much your strength means to you. It will get better....and if you can take the power back and tell him to go away it will truly help your self esteem.
Good luck.

Thank you Jools

He is coming to see me on Wednesday night I think and i`m going to write a list of all the things that in my opinion went wrong. he probably wont listen as he likes to blame me for everthing. True I can support myself as have been doing it for the past 8 years since my 2nd marriage ended. Sometimes its lonely and I have good days and bad, i wish I could just wash him out of my hair. I know that until I do get rid og him totally, he will always keep messing with my head and it hurts so i`m going to try very hard here to be strong and tell him what I expect and if he doesnt agree....then i`m hoping I can tell him that it is totally over

I think writing a list is a good idea - even if he won't listen he can take it away with him and may feel inclined to read it later, maybe more than once. Also you can write and rewrite it until you're happy with what you're saying, which you can't do with a conversation

Good luck hun

Sun
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Thank you Sun x