Another newbie

Hi all

Just wrote an emotinal filled blog so thought i should do something more constructive . It has been over 4 weeks since the bomb was dropped . What should i be doing legally wise. Got no idea where to start or even now. I think my wife has seen a solicitor but she has not said anything to me.Any help would be appreciated .

Hi Bri

I'm not very good at the legal stuff as it's all new to me as well. I've made an appointment with a solicitor who gives you a free 1/2 session. Alot of solicitors offer the same. It may be an idea just to book to see one just to see where the land lies. There's loads of info on here aswell - check out the divorce services and free resources. If your wife has already seen a solicitor you need to check your position as well.
Good luck

Hi Bri. Sorry that this happened to you. I would go and seek legal advice. Try and find a women solicitor as I think they are better. A women that is married and has children that is. Women are loads better than men in area's like family law. Make sure she is a member of the family law society and a practioner.

Many law firms have websites and on the sites they have profiles of the solicitors that work there. Do some research before you ring up for an appointment.

Before you go get the name of yr wifes solicitor as your solicitor will need to contact them. Its a waste of £25 for yr solicitor to contact your stbx at your home address just for the name of her solicitor.

When you go and see yr sol dont waste time pouring your heart out. They are not interested and it wastes time. They have seen it all before. Sorry to sound harsh btw.

Write down in advance what you want to talk about. That way you save time and money. Remember solicitors are 160 +vat PH.

Divorce can be a very expensive process and many divorcing couples waste money by uneccesary arguments and silly letters. Remember that the client instructs and the solicitor acts.

Lastly. Divorce is an ending of a legal contract. Be business like and firm but never cruel. Be fair and at times understanding. That way (hopefully) you will have a smoother ride through what can be a nasty old process. Remember she is your wife and you must treat her with respect and dignity no matter what.

Hope this helps. C

hi. I think I will take a different view,I will wait till her solicitor contact you then see your solicitor .You will have an idea where she is coming from and where she is going so you will not waste your half hour speculating.Only my opinion.If it is straight forward you might not even need a solicitor because when solicitors get involve things are never straight forward but in some circumstances definitely needed.
take care

hi again jen .

Thanks for the advice . Had a long talk with her this lunchtime and she said eveything that i wanted to hear about the future and financial things . Sounded to good to be true . I have a friend who is going to ask her family solicitor to recomend someone in this area. Then i will make up my mind what to do next.

Cheers once again.

Hi marshmellow.

Thanks for the advice . Everyone who replies gives me something else to think about . Even though i am a man i still find it easier talking to women about anything on any level .So i will definately try and find a woman solicitor.

Cheers.

Hi marriaa.
A very interesting take on things . As i mentioned in another reply we had a long talk today and neither of us mentioned solicitors . Lots of things to think about but i will consider your suggestion as it is the least confrontational and at the moment i am very tired emotionally and don't need anymore stress.

Cheers Marriaa.