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HI Everyone my tale of woe

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09 Aug 08 #38772 by judes
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I have been lurking for a week or two and thought I ought to introduce myself and I have just about had enough over the last couple of days so thought a quick vent would do no harm!

The last couple of months of my life have not been good and reads like something form a novel if I hadn't have lived through it wouldn't believe it myself. So here it is

End of May my dearly loved dog died she was 12

Beginning of June my marriage of some 16 years was torn apart in a matter of minutes too much to go into but involved an Emergency Court Injunction to get him out and and ensure he had no contact whatsoever with either myself or my son.(12)I have known my husband for some 18 years so a bit of a shock to the system and very nearly bought on another stroke which would not be good as I have already had a couple and am now partially sighted (I had my first when I was 36 and am now 48)

Due to the fact I cant work now financially things are more than a little tight and he is now refusing to pay the bills I cant afford the mortgage so looks like I will lose the house and cos of my eyesight will find it very difficult to move and if I don't do it soon really wont be able to see.Thankfully I have a very good solicitor who is working very hard for me but it all takes time

If that wasn't enough my Dad died at the beginning of July we all knew he was ill but really wasn't expected I really miss my Dad.Coming home to an empty house after I had been at my Mum's was just so lonely. On the same day my dad died my young Kitty got run over and killed.
Within two weeks of my Dads funeral I had to have another two kittys put to sleep. I know it sounds daft but my kittys are just like family.

In the last to days have managed to slip on the floor and aggravate an old back injury and was putting rubbish in the wheelie bin didn't see the lid and now have a cut under my eye It was also my wedding anniversary!

I have waffled on a bit, some would say no change there, but really don't know how much more I can take and am not sleeping very well just now which doesn't help.

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09 Aug 08 #38773 by lillyanne
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Hi Judes
I am so very sorry. You have had so much grief to deal with in such a short time. Won't go into detail but I was waking up every day to bad news - nothing good was happening and basically, I lost the plot. Completely thought I was living in hell. Two years of crying every day for one reason or another. As for the money side, there is nothing more scary than having to worry about money. Get in touch with Legal Aid. They are fantastic. See your doctor about having counselling. And as for your poor kittys, the RSPCA are crying out for homes. I got my last two from them. One I have now was tossed in a field with her siblings and left to die. I idolise her. She is my best friend, so please pay them a visit. Also get in touch with DLA.
Dont worry about waffling - you are in competition with us lot. Stay strong and keep posting. The peeps on here are amazing. xx

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09 Aug 08 #38792 by Sun 13
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Hi Judes

Sorry to hear you story - have you got a lot on your plate or what!

The thing with pets dying is that a lot of people don't realise the impact this can have on you, Some people just think "it was only a pet or animal"! When I lost my last dog, I couldn't even leave the house for a fortnight. I grieved for her as I would for any member of my family, and have had her name tattoed on my back as a memorial. So for you to lose so many must be heartbreaking. I agree with lillyann tho - one of the things that helped me get over it was the fact that we had anotherdog in the house to focus on. A trip to the RSPCA could help you out, not to mention a little bundle of fluff or two. Also losing a parent is a major event in your life - I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Have you had any bereavement counselling? For all your losses.

Coming back to an empty house can be hard, and one of the things that can drive home what has happened. Make the most of wiki here - come in, get the kettle on and open up wiki. Join in the forums, go into the chat rooms and join the community. Chatting to someone by keyboard is every bit as rewarding as face to face, and there are some wonderful people on here, all with their own stories and who can relate to what you are going thru

Take care

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09 Aug 08 #38831 by marriaa
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hi Judes.
welcome to wiki.I am really sorry to hear that life is not treating well at

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