A bit bewildered....

Hello all.

My wife of 16 years walked out on me at the start of this year and started divorce proceedings. All I'm waiying for now is the Absolute. We'd no kids and no property to sort out (we worked together and lived in accomodation that we got with our job. She moved out and took the furniture, I kept "our" caravan and "our" dogs.) As a result of this, I "met" a girl via the internet and who has been incredibly supportive of me. One thing led to another and I've recently moved in with her, having moved back to my home county.

Although I didn't expect this to happen, it just did. It feels right and as we both feel the same way about each other, I'm not arguing with it. I don't know why but even though it feels right, I'm terrified that I've rushed into it and it will all go wrong again. I hate the word "rebound" but I guess that's what it is and I don't know how to deal with it.

HI alomstsingle

Welcome to wiki, Im sorry you have need to be here, but am sure you will find the site a great source of support and help.

Your new relationship - only you and your new partner know how you truely feel about each other, it may be a "rebound" thing, or it may be the real thing - only you will know that in time. There is no rule written down that says we have to wait a certain period of time before we meet another, or fall in love. Love can happen when we least expect it. Only you will know if its right or not.
I understand totally that you feel it "will all go wrong again" - Im in a new relationship too, and have those thoughts. Its natural to have such feelings, given what we have been through. Just because a relationship hasnt worked with one person, there is no reason why it shouldnt work with the another, if that makes sense?
Talk to your new partner, from what you have said, she sounds very supportive, dont keep things bottled up, or it will all come to a head and explode. Work through your doubts together.

I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world - we all need a little loving!

Take care and keep posting

Ruby

Hi there welcome to Wiki,
I was married for 22 years, new him 25 in all. He cheated and we got divorced. I met someone quite quickly afterwards, it was all new to me, only having been with one person before. I thought it was great at first, then I realised I had involved myself with a
'right twat'. Anyway I would class that as a 'rebound' Never was going to work. When I look back I cringe.
But................not long after we parted, I met another man, from the internet, and we are now married, and he is just the best. Just got a few bits to finalise with his ex - she has been clinging on for 5 years. She does not bother us, just that a house has to be sold.
So, I think if it is the right one, it does not matter whether you consider it to be on the rebound or not.If it feels right then it is, all i would say is if you ever have any doubt, then it is not.
good luck and i wish you all the best.
Zara