New to site - Hello & advice please

Hi-
Thought I'd introduce myself as I just found this site & will probably be on quite a bit.

I'm 44, a mum of 2 and an American expat living in the UK (with British citizenship after nearly 20 yrs of living here & married to a Brit).

The marriage is breaking down - due to husband's anger & rage. After years of it destroying me & the kids, I found the courage to tell him how it affects us and to give him an ultimatum to either get counselling or I want to separate/divorce. I have given him a time line as I won't wait around for him to promise to get it sorted & do nothing.

I can't make him do anything - he has to be the one to accept his behaviour & want to change. All these years, he has made excuses for himself.

Anyway, I need to get myself to a soliciter and see where it all goes from here. I am not even sure if my name is on the mortgage - or if it's just in his name. I'm told this could be a key issue as to whether the kids & I can continue living in the home.

All help is appreciated in helping me clear my head & stay strong to do what is necessary for me & the kids.
Thanks for listening.

Anyway... I'm totally

Welcome to the site. I'm new here too and I'm sending you a big hug.
We can't change their behaviour, they have to want to. Getting an injunction against my husband 2 weeks ago was the hardes decision of my life but I have to think of my own safety.
I can't really offer much advice because I'm still new and the feelings are so raw. Come into chat. I've spent the past 2 days there and the people are so lovely and funny.
Take care of yourself and your children. YOU are worth it.
x

Hi Sunflowergirl

Welcome to Wiki, Im sorry you have need to be here, but Im sure you will find the site a great source of support, help and advice.

it must have taken a great deal of courage and strength to give your husband the ulitmatum, and I admire you for doing so. One of the things about Wiki is that there is always someone else who is in a similar postion and Im sure that you will find someone on here who has good words of advice to offer you on your particular situation.

The chatroom is a good place to speak to others, to let off steam, share your thoughts, talk seriously about divorce, or just have a bit of a natter, hope to see you there sometime.

Take Care

Ruby x