Hubby Help

Hi, My name is Maggie and I am in dire need of some advice.

I am in the process of seeking a divorce from my husband. Throughout the length of our marriage 10 yrs he has not worked and I have been the wage earner. He was also not entitled to any benefits because my income was too high £33,000 and he hadnt paid his stamp.

It was only this year that he applied for an received disability living allowance...He could have worked prior to this but didnt!

He is claiming that if we divorce, he will claim that we had an agreement that he was a house husband and therefore I should still pay him an amount every month. Is this true?

During the years I have paid for everything despite the fact my verbal agreement with him had been that I would work full-time as he is a bit older so my earning potential was greater but that he would return to work when my son was five. My son is 13 now!

Recently I took charge of the finances because for years we had never saved whilst he was managing the money. I am in the process of setting up a very small business and wanted to work out just how much i could put into build that so I took over the money.

We are in housing association property both our names are on the agreement. We have no savings and the business has no profit as yet.

Now he is saying that I will have to pay him money every month if we divorcee. Is this true?

With regard to housing if he refuses to leave is there anything I can do? And, if it went to some form of decision with the housing association, would they proclaim him as the tenant in the circumstances regarding me as able to afford to rent elsewhere? Or, would they recognise that in fact it was me who paid the rent all these years???

I am happy for him to take anything he needs from the house but I really want to keep this tenancy due to having a 13 yr old and the high cost of renting in comparision, in the area.

Jings, sorry this is so long but I need some advice.

Maggie

Maggie, if you were the earner and he the house- husband it is verly very likely that you have to pay maintenance for him. And with a disability allowance he can make sure that he does not have to take every job.

With the housing I cant really help you sorry..but if his name is on the contract he is a tenant as well..disregarding who paid the rent.How they will choose who is allowed to stay.. a disablet man or a single mum with a 13 year old child.. I dont know. If renting in comparison is expensive in the area it will be expensive for him as well so better dont use that argument but find good reasons to use

Thank You for your reply,

My head is going round and round.

Im not really going to bring up or hint at things Im pondering, Im trying to think in my head of every scenario.

I just need to get some good advice and hope for the best.

Thanks for your help