Just want out - my story so far

Glad you are getting stronger. It helps knowing you are not alone and we are here to help - even if its only with a hug ((N)).
Was the Email from a solicitor? or just from him?
Get your petition in first & quickly. On the petition it gives you a chance to state you are going to Apply for ancillary relief and also applyfor him to be made to pay costs.
Look under free resources for the forms (3 copies to be made, with the advice notes to help you stay on track) A copy or original of your marriage certificate and £300 to start the ball rolling. Then you have time to think about what you want.
BE AWARE: Because it is a short marriage you might only come out with what you put in.

Hi All,

Just a uick update! I went to see a solicitor on Monday afternoon as the last communication I had with my ex was 'I have taken legal advice I suggest you do the same'. Anyhow she was brilliant and has sent my evil bar steward of an ex a letter demanding a full financial disclosure.
Anyhow I thought I would add some more detail so that I could get some advice in terms of finances.

I am currently unemployed. I left my job in Nofolk to move back with my Mum after loosing the baby and after my ex became increadibly angry and aggressive.
Our marital home is rented and he is currently still there. Despite this all happening a few weeks ago he has already had my name removed from the council tax etc! We have no other property together, however he has a house that he ownes and rents out (and gets a large income from). I have literally no assets - I was bankrupt at the start of the year thanks to him draining all my resources. However he earns in excess of £50k. How likely is it I will get some kind of maintenance and in terms of splitting financial assets etc, how is it likely to go? We were only married 7 months before I found out he was cheating. no children.
My solicitor confirmed the divorce would be on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.
Equally the S of a B has been married before and lied about why that relationship ended. I think it was pretty much the same as what happened to me - as their marriage only latsted 18months with a year's separation!! Is this admissable if it goes to court? Could his first wife be called to give a character witness etc? Is it worth me trying to find her?
From doing my homework I am pretty certain I married a sociopath. Fab!
Anyhow I shall await the rage as he probably got my solicitors letter today!!!

Til the next update! + any adice on the above very very welcome!

In short temr mariage; it is usual to simply return each party to where they came from. Your marital home was rented; so no equity there; but he does have another home. Check with your solicitor what rights you have to claim against his assets; if indeed you've given up your job, maybe he might have to pay Spousal support, at least until you find another position.

In what way, and how much did you contribute; (since you say you were made bankrupt)? This may have some bearing on your situation, as the Courts can re-instate you to the financial position you had before. He just might at least owe you that from his assets.

Hi,

I paid for all of our very expensive wedding. Plus I paid the deposit on our previous rented house which I never got back. He just told me they kept it for electricity etc. I know I know the more I look back the more I must have had mug written on my forehead. My solicitor is going for maintenance based on his salary and the fact that I am left with nothing and he has everything.

In short term marriage; you should at least be re-instated to what was there before. Not sure how it works with wedding contribution?
My ex paid £8k for the new bathroom, (I paid also, and did much of the hands-on work) However, since he'd just forked out for that; I then paid £7k for the wedding.

...post more on that when you've talked to your sol please.

Natash, my heart goes out to you, it truly does! How can a man treat anyone so bad when she is miscarrying his child, he should have supported you through your loss, not cause you more pain!! Keep posting here as everyone is supportive. And yes, unreasonable behaviour is good grounds for divorce, and you HAVE been married a year so it can go ahead. Good luck & know we are here for you.
PS i suffered many early miscarriages too so know what you must have gone through.
Cindygirl

Natasha

I've had a miscarriage and I know how painful it is both physically and emotionally. You've had a rough year, things can only get better.