Me, myself and I

Hi,

I have been married for 17 years, now and have teens, I have tried to make my marriage work, in fact I left my husband when my kids were small, but had him back again because it was just too painful with small children. Now my kids are older, I would like to go it alone, I have a husband who is very insecure, this has made it difficult over the years. We both rent a council house, in both names, and I am planning on getting a divorce, he will not move out, as he has nowhere to go, he is not close to his family. So I will have to ask the council to either re-house me and kids. he will not budge and says he cant live without me, I see him as a pathetic human being.
I have no feelings for him what so-ever they have slowly disintegrated over the years, as I feel he has stopped me living my life, because of his jelousy. Any feedback from anyone who has been in similar situation is most welcome.

Hi pixee

and welcome to wiki.

I have not been in a situation similar to yours, but I am sure someone on here is or has been and will advise you.

The only point I want to make is this : if you both live in council accommodation and
you decide that you want to move out, the council may well decide ( depending on where you live and how much pressure there is on their housing stock ) that you have made yourself voluntarily homeless and as such, it has no obligation to re-house you.

Do inform yourself on this point before making any other decision.

Good luck

Red XX

Yes thank you for that advice, I think I would be better staying in the council house even if my husband refuses to go, I think maybe a court would have to order him out. Even though this may be quite stressful. The children are settled here also. Schools close by.

pixee wrote:

Yes thank you for that advice, I think I would be better staying in the council house even if my husband refuses to go, I think maybe a court would have to order him out. Even though this may be quite stressful. The children are settled here also. Schools close by.

I have found out a bit of info today, that if either of us ended the tenancy the other person would be made homeless. Also one person has to be willing to sign the house over to the other in a legal document. My husband says he will not leave, sleeping on the sofa, and because his name is on tenancy agreement the house is as much his as mine. He is saying quite abusive comments to me on a regular basis
and the atmosphere is not nice when he is around. I shall be getting more advice soon.