Cabbage said:
Hi,
I in the middle of divorce. I also had the unfortunate timming of being diagnosed with MS 2 weeks after divorce was filed. There are plenty of divorcees out there with MS. To me the diagnosis and divorce present themselves as a massve tangle of issues, what if's and whats going to happen. Divorce is quite common with MS sufferers.
So just to let you know that somehow I've come back from despire. Its a rollercoaster journey that allows you to learn who you are again after a longstanding codependancy relationship, albeit a painful one. As positive as i may sound, I still have downers and periods of unsettledness. My "current stage" is to live in hope, day-by-day in an ever changing world! A complete contrast to living a structured daily pattern that goes on for years until you retire.
Only when I can continue living indepedantly, can I begin to relearn independant values and independant ways of living and look after my health. So to those out there in depire and have wondered "why?", and "I worked so hard", and "whats going to happen in the future?" give yourselves a pat on back for trying (no one else will!) and hope for a brighter future. Dont think of yourselves as slaves to the divorce system. Check your morals, change them and stick to them. Its tough but worth it.
Cabbage
Cabbage, I found your post in the midst of another one, and I felt that it deserved a little more prominence.
I take my hat off to you.
To deal with the emotional impact of divorce is enough to send many a brave soul running into the hills screaming. To add to that the impact of living with a condition such as your own, so soon after learning that your marriage is over would drive many people under.
To write such a supportive post to a group of complete strangers as your first introduction to the site is extraordinary.
I do take issue with one thing, however. Your username. Cabbages are a good source of vitamin C, generate unpleasant smells post-digestion, have little to contribute to debate, lack emotion and compassion, and are best served with butter and a little ground black pepper, and are often disliked by small children.
You, on the other hand, have something considerably more to contribute. Yourself and your experience.
We all have our own private misery here at Wikivorce, called our divorce. It rips us to pieces, forces us to admit all kinds of things to ourselves that we didn't want to hear, makes us review our lives to date in nauseating detail. But very few of us have to deal with divorce and the onset of a condition such as your own.
Welcome to Wikivorce and I hope that you find some comfort and support here, as many of us have done to date.
Mike
