Don't know how to handle

Hi All

I am very new to chatting, however i am seeking support and guidance as i have found myself in a very traumatic situation. Been together for 16 years, 14 married, with 2 kids ( 10 & 12), originally from South Africa,relocated to Dubai about 18 months ago, have no family or friends here. Financial stress forced us to leave our country, little did i know what would happen in a new country, not prepared. My husband claims that he has never wanted to be in the marriage since the 1st 6 months, he claims that we should not have gotten married in the first place, so here we are now, he wants a divorce and i have no idea how to ahndle this process.

Hi and welcome to Wiki

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this awful time and when you are so far from home too! So it took your husband fourteen years to discover that he shouldn't have married!?! Sounds like classic midlife crisis to me, poor you having to deal with the fall out.

Words can't make things easier for you, but there are lots of people here that are more than happy to listen, offer a shoulder to cry on or give advice. Feel free to moan and vent all your frustrations, we've all been there so know exactly what you're going through.

Take care of yourself

Mad x

Thank you Madpoodle for your kinds words- just so much of confusion at this stage- just want to tell him to get the hell out and stop living of me- but i am having a very hard time doing this because he keeps on blaming me fot he sitaution- apparently he has been trying to save the marriage but he does want me , all he wants is my money.

Hi im probably not the best person to give advice on personal issues,,,,so all i can advise it that you find out as much information you can on your rights and circumstances,,difficult as not uk to advise who to see. At least this way you will have a greater understanding of what you can and cant do.

I am so sorry you are in this situation,the law is so different in differnt countries one thing I will tell you protect yourself as much as possible,it does get a lot worst.
all the best

Thanks All

For the advice, i ahve queried the law in my own country, since we do not own anything jointly, and have been married with PRE_NUP where waht is mine remains mine, however i lost all my assets back home due to him going into various business ventures, so at this point we only share the children and he is not interested in having a relationship with him , the kids have seen what their father has been subjecting me through over the years, so they feel that he should leave, he believes that he is living ritheously since he has converted to a different religion ever since we have arrived in Dubai- i think that he is delusion