Hello

Dear All,

I have just found this site and thought I would introduce myself. I am 43 years old and my marriage broke down in September 2006 after 10 years of marriage. I moved out of the marital home in July 2007 after sharing the house with my Husband and my mother-in-law for 7 months and moved up to London to try and get a better paid job to try and support myself. I currently live in a tiny council flat on a grotty estate in central London with a friend whilst he and my mother-in-law continue to live in luxury in my beautiful cottage in the country He shows no sign of wanting to move out/put the house on the market and does not seem to want to keep any kind of contact up with me - even to be civil.

As when I moved out, we still had a fixed rate on the house, we agreed that we would not sell until the fixed rate came (June 2008)to an end so that we would avoid the repayment but penalties - stupid, stupid I know !!! but who could guess that this recession was going to come along ?? Having recently spoken to the estate agents who I got to value my house last year, I know that we have already lost about £50-60 k on the property and stand to lose even more ...

I am terrified as to what is to become of me, I have no other assets or savings and could be made homeless at any time. I even ploughed the money I inherited from my mum into the house and mortgage so haven't even got that to fall back on or to help pay my legal bills as I know I am not eligible for legal aid.

Long term, HIS financial security is assured as he owns his own business, part owns another property in London (both of which I have been told I can't touch)and stands to inherit loads of money from his mother but my circumstances will be very different I am afraid. I have no parents or family to give me support, only that of a few friends. I feel so frightened and alone and cannot believe my life as come to this .... Any support/words of wisdom from forum members would be greatfully received.

K x

Sorry to hear you are so down.

Look around this site well, I think you have more of a claim on the assets than you believe.

Hi Kitty

All I will say at this point is to echo what Xordon has said... Don't sit there terrified, read around the forums... join us in chat.

Lots of people here can sympathise with your situation. You'll be offered support, advice and often practical help.

Welcome to Wiki

Shez

Hi Worriedkitty, welcome to Wikki, i agree, read the forums as you will identify with others & get some clues/advice as to where you stand.
I'm sure your ex wont get away scott free, have you had a free half hour consultation with a solicitor? I hope you get the answers you need here soon, keep looking in,
Cindy