A short intro to me

Hi all,

I have just registered on here and thought that I would start with introducing myself. Well my name is Simon,I'm 36 years young and I'm from Gwent in South Wales.

I divorced in May 2003 after just over 4 years of marriage, and have a 9 year old daughter. I also see my ex-wife's 14 year old son regularly as I built up a very good relationship with him as his 'dad'. His real dad is a waste of space and does anything to try and avoid seeing him, so he looks to me for stability and support.

The separation was hostile and I didn't see my daughter or former step-son for the first 3 months. However by a quirk of fate, when I was involved in a near fatal car crash, it put things in perspective and afterwards my ex-wife and I sat down and talked through a lot of issues. It's been a long bumpy road but generally we have a amicable relationship now, which has only been good for the kids. I see my daughter regularly, and my step-son usually a few times per week.. so access isn't an issue really.

I am currently still single and unattached (not down to lack of looking that's for sure). I am currently out of work with long term depression and anxiety, and I claim Incapacity Benefit. Although I'm hoping to get back to work soon, subject to my doctor's decision.

Well that's about it really for now! Thanks for reading!

hi simon, welcome to wiki you seem as if you are now sorted out, its great you see your kids, im only at nisi stage financials end of this month, hope you get back to work soon, take care, dave

Hi Simon
Welcome to Wiki.

It was good to read your story, to hear of a 'good outcome' for you, even if it was after your accident. It is at times like that that you put things into proper perspective.
I know I had a cancer scare a few months ago, all clear, but I certainly does make you realise how important we all are and how futile situations are made to be by us not being 'nice people'.

Glad you get to see your daughter and step son now, much better future for you all, rather than horrible silly disputes. They just take us all on the road to misery.

Last thing now for you is to get yourself well again and get back to work. Stress causes us to feel so tired and miserable and unable to cope with even the most mundane tasks.

No doubt you will be making contributions helping all on wiki.

Best wishes
zara

Hallo Simon

You have got through divorce to the other side.

I am just separated from my husband and dealing with the effects its had on our 16 and 14 year old sons. Both of them are very angry at their dad.

I am finding it hard as I don't want to interfere in their relationship but I would love it if husband just cleared off out of our lives.

The emotions are very raw and I am crying several times a day though have seen doctor and got something to help me sleep which I hope will help.

So sorry you are coping with depression, its a vile illness, and hope things perk up for you soon. In the meantime it must be a comfort that you have such a good relationship with your daughter and stepson.