Wee Me

Eeeeeek Kate - teenager music! Enough to send you running out of the house screaming for mercy

Waiting for counseling I would imagine is a nightmare. Perhaps your web savvy son might indulge in some self-help in the interim?

My teenagers found these sites helpful:

www.divorceaid.co.uk/child/teenagers.htm

www.itsnotyourfault.org/

How damned condecending for Dad to sit in his new life and pass comment on how HIS actions are impacting on HIS child? Hmmmmmm - can feel blood boiling a little.

Crying is GOOD. It releases all kinds of toxins and lets your body make its repairs to your fragile emotional state. The emotinal rollercoaster is terrible. The silliest things will set us off. The supermarket doesn't have the right size of breakfast cereal, you see a photo of happier times etc etc.

But is does get easier. You have to be strong for everyone here Kate, daunting as it seems. Your children will take some of their lead from you. Eventually, the emotional pendulum swings less wildly and more slowly and you feel able to cope and be in control of things.

Stick with us here and lots of people will tell you the same about their experience of this horrible process.

Big hug from south of the border, you old fogey you

Take care

Mike

him i hsve been reading ur replies ur situation mirrors mine does it get better?

This is very hard for you right now ,i know i was their 2 1/2 years ago .

You will find it gets better its a long roller coaster with lots of ups and downs twist and turns however you will find it gets easier to ride.

Like you happily married for 18 yrs two boys 12 and 15 at the time .We was in a good financial position enjoying life , then came off hol and bang like you my world fell apart.

Like you i use to say to friends no one will want me I'm getting old and got kids and going to be a divorcee aaahhhhh felt like i would be on my own .

Well i met a lovely guy a year ago by chance and he is by far better than my sbex.He treats me like a princess and supports me through the tears i shed through the divorce processes.He is my rock and makes all my pain worth it as if not for sbex going off to ow i would not of met my dream man and soul mate.

Times a good healer try to have time for yourself , take up an interest , and try to keep a good relationship between yr kids and their father even though its hard . I could not listen to music but then my kids played me a song to cheer me up by akon " don't let it get to you " it helps me even now when im low ,it keeps me positive .

YOUR IN THE RIGHT PLACE TAKE CARE X

hi wee me, feel exactly what you feel. I dont want to let go either, feel we have too much to loose, but at this point its out of both of our hands. We cant make them love us and be with us, thats up to them, but on the other side of the coin, why should we be left dangling, waiting for them to come to their senses. yeh, midlife crisis springs to mind and hopefully he will see sense and realise what the hell he's got at home