Hi and my story

Hi everyone,

Im avid from the midlands, england. Im brand new to the site and i am looking for like minded people to share thoughts and experiences with.

My story so far......

I met my now ex-partner when i was 18 and she was 16 in high school. There was an instant connection and everything was great. Both of us went to seperate universities to study but the relationship still continued and got stronger.

In 2003 she joined the police and i began my application process in that same year. In 2004 with us both in the police we rented our first place together. Even then we were still strong and totally commited to each other.

In 2006 we brought our first house in our home village and like most young couples struggled with finances for a little while. At the same time in our jobs we were both placed on seperate shift patterns. This caused us to act like ships passing in the night at home. We hardly saw each other. We also got married, had a lovely wedding and a great honeymoon.

Towards the end of 2007, with us seeing each other less and less, i began to notice a distance between us. Christmas was hard as there was hardly any affection from her and lack of contact.

I began to get suspicious of her whereabouts as she would say she was staying on at work or popping to her mums, but people would say they saw her elsewhere. I became increasingly worried when my best friend who i had known since i was 6 was being constantly referred to by her.

I then went to visit family overnight to find that he visited her till the early hours of the morning. On another occasion i returned home early to find his car outside my house, the front dor locked and him inside. didnt see anything and cudnt prove anything but they tried to make it sound like i was in the wrong.

a short time later i smelt my friends smell on one of her tops and i confronted her. she admitted they had spent time together and had kissed but had not slept with each other. i left the house and spent a couple of days away. when i returned i told her to leave and only come back when she was ready to talk.

a week later she did, admitted she had seen my friend whilst deciding what to do and eventually said she wanted a divorce.

She stated there was no chance of us repairing our relationship so whilst still living togther we placed the house on the market. Until the sale she dated other men whilst i tried to come to terms with what was happening.

The house was sold and we split everythign 50/50. even the finances we split. we also agreed to an amicable divorce and agreed to no solicitors. she also agreed for adultery to be placed on the papers but not to name the other person.

We have both since brought our own places and 2weeks ago i finally filed the divorce papers. Im hoping in 3months this nightmare will all be over.

Hallo and welcome

My nightmare is far from over. This is a good site for support.

Hi Avid and welcome to the site, I have only been using it for a few days and it is a great help. Im sorry that you have had such a bloody awful time, sounds horrendous. Be sure to use this site though as it can really make a difference when feeling particularly low. Take Care