Alone after 21 years

Hi there! My name is David and after 21 years my wife had an affair with one of the dad's of her child minding buisiness. (local man) He was a freind as well and went behind my back,

She moved out and took my 5 and 9 year old sons with her whom i see on a weds and a sat She wants me to sell our home and I am depressed and seeing a counciller and have more than contomplated suicide.

She made no effort to get back and geographically this all took place on less that 200sq mts she is 100mts one way in the village and he is 100mts the other way still with his family whilst i am left with nothing.

I have no family left now and am completely alone at home.

I hope there is some one here who I can become chums with as I can't move in the village without feeling like a freak!

Love to you all David

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What an awful situation you find yourself in. Betrayal is bad enough at anytime from a spouse but when it's with a friend (so-called) the impact is even worse. I feel for you.
You are doing the right thing seeing a counsellor, this will help you talk through your pain and grief and also help you move forward in the best way you can.
You will find plenty of support here on this site, someone is on 24/7 so you need never feel totally alone. I won't tell you life will get better for you, that might not be the best thing for you to hear right now, when you feel so desperately down, but please take all the support you can get from whoever offers it. Love and best wishes SS

Dear Dave,

Most of us are in the same position here. A lot of us have been betrayed and feel we have lost everything. I am in a right state at the moment and have to keep it together for my babies. It is so hard though.
Good luck and take all the help you can get. Take it slow as it will take time to heal the hurt. You wil probably be happier and stronger after this.

Yummy

Hi David

Welcome to wiki, home for broken harts, mixed up minds and shattered dreams.

So sorry to here of your plight.

My partner also left me after 21 years and i can understand how you must feel mate.

You say you want to find some chums, well your in the right place.

On wiki you will find friendship i'm sure and more than that people will help you through the bad times and help you celebrate the good ones.

It is in the true sense a community, a community of people suffering but trying to help each other get along, so your in the right place.

If you haven all ready get yourself into chat, they are a bunch of nutters but I love them dearly.

You will meet lots of people who are going through the same thing and the discussions range from the sublime to the ridiculous and there's lots of laughter too.

Ill keep an eye out for you but if I miss you coming in say hello.

Chin up mate, ho and If you do come in chat bring your guitar, we like a bit of music in there.

Thomo.

Hi Dave
Welcome to wiki. You have been through an awful ordeal made all the worse for being on your doorstep. I so wish I’d found wiki sooner; there is a lot of the help, support and companionship you are looking for on this site.
It is hard when you feel you have nothing and they have everything. I found it helped not to think too far ahead, just deal with things day to day and accept the various feelings as they came, especially the anger (there is a lot of that!).
Connecting with people seems to help a lot, be it friends or people on wiki...once you have been here a short while you will start to find people whose situations are uncannily similar to your own which I found made me feel much less isolated. Their support and personal experiences of what I was feeling have made their responses especially useful.
Keep posting and maybe try a blog
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Hi David. Me too. My man has left me after 21 years. I always thought of myself as a strong woman but have also had suicidal thoughts. What keeps me going are my boys. You see your boys Weds and Sats? Special times. I've spent more time with my boys than ever before playing and doing "boy things". I'm getting great at playing pool (not) I'm pretty sure your neighbours' sympathies are with you but can identify with the feeling of being a freak when everyone is coupled up in a happy family. There are some nice people on here and many of us have the same feelings and extreme emotions. Keep posting! Kate.

Thank you all so much xx

I felt so alone not so much now once gain thanks x