Alone after 21 years

Hi new chum

I am sure that you will still be highly respected, and you should continue involving yourself with guitar lessons and school activities. Why should you change your routine?

It is easy to feel down and 'beat yourself up' but you must not do that, have faith in yourself. Things will slowly improve. It just takes time to adjust to it all.

Loosing your possessions is one of the draw backs of divorce I am afraid, I lost a pot load, but I have pulled myself back up now and am determined that it will not eat away at me. You will make a new life and have new friends, perhaps a move might be the right idea. I moved and it felt good, just to get away, even though I did nothing wrong, it was a new start.

Just keep strong and posting on here it will help you.

zara

Thanks Zara Took the boys to school today saw my wife as I had to hand over the jammies etc Could not even look at her.

I guess I will have to rent somewhere...but where???? Can't go to far although i could return to canada after all these years and start again!! It's like waiting for the final stab What will she do? Crucify me finacially as well as emotionally? It is all so unfair Still Could be an excuse to dress up as Batman again !!!

Batman!!! he wore his pants over his tights!!! strange man.

You need to get some legal advice before you decide to do anything. Give the number at the top of page a call and book your free half hour of advice. This will at least help you to clear the fog.

With your mind in a whirl it is best to understand what to do and what you will be entitled to. If you can keep it amicable you will both benefit emotionally and financially.
And of course it is easier for the children.

How are the children coping with it all?

Zara

ps what sort of music do you play?

Hi As far as I can tell my eldest is more aware and seems to play my wife up a lot As usual when they are with me they are good as gold and I get loads of kisses and cuddles!

The house feels alive again during those scant hours together.

As for music It's all my own!! Acoustic stuff rockier stuff dont get this at all but WHENEVER I play or people hear the cd's it's always oooh you sound like a young Bowie or Paul Weller!!!!!! Not complaining mind but there you go I put all this on hold from thr day I found out but I am signed to a little indie label As a performer and songwriter Just enough monies to survive as money is not my priority I also work in local govt and have done for 22 years and Have 32 years pensionable service etc etc

Batman's underwear???? Looked cool to me from when I was 6!!6!!

Hi David

You are not a freak, it is not your fault, it is her fault and they are the freaks

Hey it is 10.18a.m and we love you - bet the kids you teach guitar to do as well you will still be highly thought of in the village, you did nothing wrong she did

see you in chat soon

JJ x

David pleeeeease dont start dressing up as Batman - Batman with a guitar noooooo

I know what you mean about finding it hard to look at her i could'nt bring myself to look at my husband for a long time.

You do need to go and get some legal advice before you do much else

JJ