Greetings

Hello to everyone... Just a quick intro - I separated from my wife 18 months ago after a 10 year marriage. I have 1 child who I get to see regularly so full credit to my stb ex-wife there. She hasn't worked since my son was born, and he is now 9.

The financial side is a different matter however. She is out for blood. Her priority is to cause me financial hardship first and foremost, presumably as some kind of perceived justice for having left her.

I jointly own a business with my business partner. I have to say that I have been stunned by the ability of my wife to force me and my business to rack up tens of thousands of pounds in valuation and accounting fees, all simply to confirm that my initial form E business valuation was actually slightly generous. Not only is my business partner being forced to shoulder these costs with me, but he was also forced to confirm his own PAYE details, as well as some of our directors. I find it astonishing that this very personal data, about people uninvolved in my personal matters, can be so freely demanded by a court.

My divorce is coming up to the FDR stage - 2 weeks to go. I feel quite disillusioned by the whole process thus far. I am forced to live in a grotty flat while she continues to live at my expense in the FMH, a large 4 bed house. She has every incentive to keep the process dragging on, and at the end of it looks likely to take the lion's share of everything plus enjoy a monthly income greater than mine while I work and she stays at home.

Anyway, rant over - and I actually feel good about life on the whole because I now have a partner who has made me realise what a really good relationship is all about, and that my friends is worth more than any amount of money.

Doesn't stop me getting incandescent with rage over the injustice of the divorce system every now and again though...

Just wanted to say welcome and wish you luck. My partner has similar feelings to your own about his stbx wife, the divorce system and, thankfully, me...