Anyone else divorce after 1-year of marriage?

Hi,

I was referred to this site from Mens Advice Line. I’m a month away from my 1-year wedding anniversary and I’m pretty much done and mentally resolved on divorce. Has anyone else made that crazy early realisation? Hell, I tried to get out of the wedding on the night before, but screaming tears and threats of suicide meant I went through with the wedding.

Basically, I believe I’m in a controlling, coercive and verbally abusive relationship that goes through the classic cycle or abuse. I’m just miserable seeing how I am trapped in the marriage. She’s apologised and promised before, many times, to change and not shout at me over small things or insult and belittle me, but she keeps breaking that promise. I’ve had enough.

i honestly feel like a failure and fool for staying in this relationship so long and for getting married. But I was afraid of being alone and having another failed long term relationship behind me.

the idea of divorce still scares me… I have no idea how she will react, but I’m hoping she’ll be relieved too. I mean, if everything I do pisses her off and triggers her, how can she want to stay in a relationship with me?… other than she seems very dependent on me and has cut out many of her friends…

I’m here on this site to keep my confidence and resolve high and push through with a divorce application before we commit to buying a house together or having children. Because then it would be even more messy than it is now. Right?

has any other person left an abusive spouse after just one year? Would appreciate hearing survival stories and advice on key things to watch out for to protect myself (I.e. I am aware I should not be the one to move out of my own house). Other advice welcome!