I'm new and confused

Hi all. Just found the site and think it could really help me. I have been separated from my husband for over nearly 3 years now. We have 2 sons aged 6 and 9. I know nothing about the divorce process except that a solicitor quoted me in the region of £1500 which is why I haven't gone ahead as yet. Was thinking of diy but scared of making a costly mistake:(

You can do divorce extremely cheaply if you are in agreement on the children and finacial split - IF NOT you will spend thousands.
So far I have spent £2000 simply on a few lawyers letters, and two separate lawyers opinions and advice. My stbx has spent the same. My divorce is very acrimonious as we do not agree on access/residency, maintenence or division of the assets. We are far from rich, have a house worth £200k, £100k in savings. I am not working and my husband earns £30k. If we cannot agree i think we are looking to spend £40-50k as I think we will be in and out of court over the next 5 years.
My husband involved lawyers 2 weeks after we split and he then stopped mediation, so I feel the blame is 100% on him. I have told him time and time again that people who go through the courts seriously come to regret it, but he will not listen. He has sent threatening lawyers letters over the smallest and most insignificant things. The only winners are the lawyers.
You can do divorce on line for £150. Have you tried mediation?

Yummy

Thanks yummy. Our divorce is set to be fairly amicable, fingers crossed. It's accepted that the children will continue to live with me and ex husband can see them whenever he wants to. The only thing worrying me is that our matrimonial home is in his name only. I have been told by solicitors that this doesn't matter, we were married for almost 14 years and I will be entitled to half at worst, more possibly because I have the kids living with me. Our savings are non-existent, pensions are not even worth mentioning. It's just child maintenance and the house which could be complicated. I'd like it done and dusted but as I was married in Florida I think it could complicate matters too. I do have the original marriage certificate but not sure that helps?
Thanks so much for your advice x