Moving on with our lives
Hello all, Im new to this site and have waited a couple of weeks watching reading what this site is about.
Whilst I have quite a few queries this query surrounds my soon 2bx We have thre wonderfully children 2boys one girl, when she split and left home to set up home else where, the older two children boy 15yo and girl 14yo wanted to stay with me in the
marital home the and still visit their mum one day every 2 weeks or so. the youngest boy 5yo stays with their mum but vists me on the weekend.
Basically when she left she returned to collect things that were hers, things possessions that 'she paid for' like the bed, clothes- hers and the youngest child, washer ,drier fridge jewelry pictures, wall paper- that had not been pit up, I agreed as she was starting a new life away from me and her children,with all this and there were no problems from my side even though she would still protest that she has a right to these items.
This went on for about a month her comming over really ignoring me as she collected her stuff when she can. She has resold some items to me for the kids sake like an old washer and fridge which i am using. She now has finished moving stuff i have the bare essentials and the marital home to ourselves at the moment.
What I have done is now changed the locks to the ex marital home 2months ago after she had taken her things, she only discovered that the locks had been done this week of course she wernt happy as she called me at work say she has a right to come and go as the home was the marital home, even though she wont tell me where she lives and dont want me round there, i disagreed she says she will tell her lawyer.
Am I ok in doing this, I just want closure and to know that when I am at work my s2bx wont take something out of the house because she thinks its hers and I will not have any recourse has I 'dont know where she lives' I do know as my children have told me but thats not the issue.
We were married 12 years her whilst her name is on the deed for financial reasons-me being self employed at the time, she has never attempted any payment of the mortgage. I've paid major bills and purchases as i was earning, she eventually signed on to disability and has had benefits to pay for some extras.She has filed for divorce I cant afford a solicitor and been left with bills and arrears upto my ears, gas was cut off last night- they are putting in a pre payment meter-life at the moment is going down hill even though im working.I am happy that she has gone, she will be once she is settled im sure, she initially was angry even though she had gone off with her best friend and ex-convict lesbien 'junkie' which she did have an affair with for some months.
She is now living alone with our youngest as i have mentioned.
Percy -It will get better in time :>)
