Hi everyone

And in response to you're earlier post.....write a letter, it shows you have taken the time and have the feeling to put it down on pen and paper....much more personal than email or text.....which is how i got told there was no chance and it was over....

Matt x

Hi Matt,

Thanks for the advice, i know your right but it's all so hard at the moment, I am having a really bad week emotionally. Had a text off him today asking why i didn't reply to his last one and am i OK. I am putting on a front for my close family and friends that says i'm OK, but i'm not really. There's no way i'd ever have him back after whats happened, so why don't i just end our contact? Maybe i will sit down and write that letter when i'm a little less emotional. Thanks for the support.

jewel62 wrote:

Hi Matt,

Thanks for the advice, i know your right but it's all so hard at the moment, I am having a really bad week emotionally. Had a text off him today asking why i didn't reply to his last one and am i OK. I am putting on a front for my close family and friends that says i'm OK, but i'm not really. There's no way i'd ever have him back after whats happened, so why don't i just end our contact? Maybe i will sit down and write that letter when i'm a little less emotional. Thanks for the support.

Hi Jewel. What matt says is right. U cant be his freind. Friends dont betray each other. He wants to maintain contact with you becuase he is still tied to you and he is unsure of his new relationship. Thats very common in affairs. Thats usualy why they keep it a secret for as long as possible. But he is using you. So dont let him. He feels as bad as you do and with added guilt. He has totaly betrayed you in the worst possible way.

I wouldnt write him a letter. He isnt worth the price of a stamp. It is bound to be packed with lots of emotion and will send the wrong message. U can still write the letter but burn it instead. Thats symbolic and will help you later. Just txt him if you want and tell him not to txt you anymore and only contact is thru solicitors. Then change yr phone number. That will send the right message. After all he has done this to you and you have done nothing to deserve it.


You have to concentrate on you now. Not him. He is gone for good and in time you will look back on these times and thank your lucky stars that he is gone.

But for now you have to just deal with yr feelings. It will be hard at 1st but as time passes it gets easier. Trust me it does. I am 3 years further on than you and I can atest to the fact that time is a great healer.

You will go from elation to heartbreak in an instant. Everyone gets this. And it shows you are human.

For now just be kind to your needs. Cry if you want to and get it out of your system. Work your way thru the divorce and try and keep yr spirits up. Wicki is a great place to be and you have many friends on here. We will hold your hand while you go thru this. All the best C

OK so i've taken on board all your helpful advice. You were all right about not being able to stay friends. So i sent him a text saying i didn't want to see or hear from him again. Now I've received a text off his tart saying that he is ill and i have really upset him! I've upset HIM:angry: cheeky cow what the hell do they think they've done to me!