how do i cope

i dont know how to move forward its been just a week since my husband left and said he has a girlfreind but only to make it easier for him to move out. he says he decided to move out months ago but didnt so he reaquainted his self with a lady he met some years ago and started to see her a week before he moved out so he could not go back on his decision he says she is just a distraction because he loves me but can no longer live with me and she is helping him cope with it he says he did not sleep with her untill after last friday but he was seeing her since 18th september he says that he will not get back together with me no matter what even years down the line and i dont know how to cope coz he and my children are all ive lived for for twenty years. how do you get past wanting to speak to the person youv'e spoken to every day for the best part of your life. he wasn't just my husband he was my best friend too and now i cant even talk to him. thank you for listening

Hello lindylou

So sorry to hear about what is happenong to you at the moment. As i'm sure you can appreciate these early days really do hurt like hell but there's lots of support here on wiki so keep posting or come into chat.

You need good friends and family around you to get through these early days. Easy for me to say but it does get better with time but it's a case of slowly but surely.

Wishing you the very best of luck and take care of yourself

Mirf x

Hi lindy

It sounds like you're going thru a lot there, that's a horrible way for someone to want to move on. You have come to the right place to find support and to speak to people who can totally relate to what you're going thru. Keep coming back, talking about things can help you to deal with what's going on, and we are all here for you if you need us

Take care

HI Lindy

Hunny i am so sorry, i do know how you feel, i to have been left after 20 years, although mine was 4 months ago, i will not deny it is hard especially when they have someone else in their lives, i still cry alot and wonder what the hell i did wrong, but i now know it was nothing i did, its him, i gave him a good life, i was never demanding and let him do most of the time what he wanted, but i wasnt good enough, so that is down to him not me, you will get stronger as the days go by and time does heal, but you have to stay strong for you and your children.

The days will get better and you will get lots of support if you continue to post on here, you are worth more, you just have to keep remembering that.

Hugs Elly xxxx

Hi,
I'm going through the same thing as you but I'm a little farther down the line as my wife left me and our 3 children in January. One day you are chatting to the person you've loved for most of your adult life and shared dreams and ambitions with and then the next you can barely get a Text message from them. The only advice I can give you is to stay strong for your childrens sake and try and let your anger out when they are not present.They are also victims of your husbands selfishness but in a different way and need comforting too.It does get easier I promise you,though you probably won't believe that at the moment.

Visit your local CAB for advice on help with your finances and finding a Solicitor.Good luck.

Hi, i'm so sorry you're goingh through this too. My stbx also told me a year ago he was seeing another woman, but he also said she was just a distraction for when he wa lonely. Truth was he had been seeing her for 6 months & is still with her today 18 months on. Its so hard to accept you've been replaced & it hurts like hell for a while. Somehow you have to stay strong & just get through it. Wikki has helped me enormously and i suggest you read others posts & learn from them like i have. You are in a safe place here & we will all help you cope,
Cindy