what's next??

hi, first post of many, i guess, found out my wife has been having an affair, left home. we have two small kids, i am filling in the divorce papers as i write, any adice on how to procede?

Yeah . Get back into the home. Once your out , your out. She may play it that you abandoned them and walked out. Also, your will loose access and may never get your hands on any of your property. If you leave your will quickly loose any right to enter the home and claim your possessions. She will then have possession which is 9/10th of the law in practice though not in theory.

Once you leave you will find communication gts ever more strained and formal via solicitors. You will get less and less chance to sort things amicably.

I think thats a bit broad brush from the previous boarder. I left but went back and got the stuff I wanted. If push comes to shove and it gets nasty, you get a court order to access the property. Abandonment is very dramatic, and if she had an affair...there are an abundance of reasons for marriage breakdowns aren't there?

I wouldn't worry too much at this early stage, but get advice from a professional in the first instance. Theres no reason for you to panic at the moment. Try and think logically (very hard, I know, been there), then get advice.

AB

bloody hell??!!!

Try not to worry!!

Someone will come along and give you some constructive advice soon!!

You do not need to rush into anything immediately, let the dust settle a little.

Try and keep lines of communication open if you can. Maybe regarding the kids for the moment.

Keep posting on here and read up on the divorce process, child issues and money matters.

Take care of your health and eat well.

thanks,

trying to stay friendly, very hard work, still talking though

almost reading too much about divorce, can't believe it's happening, but it is!

on the positive side i've never looked so slim??!!

thanks

Hi Northern Monkey, good luck with everything. There's no denying it can be a very traumatic time and an emotional rollercoaster ride, but there's lots of support and advice to be had here.

You're right about the positive side! I lost a stone and a half in a couple of months. I would rather have lost it another way though!