Ex-spouse, the ex-rebound, ex-communicated.

Hello!

I thought it would be nice to speak to others going through the same crap and maybe share some tips on how to get through it. Paperwork for my divorce is *almost* final.

My story: Couple years ago, I married the man I had been with for a few years, only to find out that he was cheating. Then I had a fling/rebound, whom I kinda fell for, and then moved to a new city for a new job. So I was basically missing both of them throughout the separation (though I had more anger than sadness towards the ex-husband)! I have dated a few people, nothing serious, and made friends here and there. Basically tried to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and re-build, get to know myself, enjoy, try new things, etc etc.

But I felt broken inside.

Anyway, it's been up and down. Lots of people in my age group are getting married now (including my former fling, who is on my myspace - should I delete him?). It is hard, still. But I am trying to put all that behind me and focus on my career and making new friends. I hear it gets better as time goes by.

So...does it?

Hi philosopherqueen. Yes you should delete him. Whats the point of keeping rubbish? Put him out with the recycle bin lol.

Yes it does get better. But one common trap is we forget what normal life is like. Being imersed in this for so long I forgot that life has its normal ups and downs. The usual ones that everyone has.

Being with someone demands that you give a bit of yourself to them. And when you seperate you (eventauly) get it back. Thats good. So just live your life. Do and think usual things (from your post you seem to be getting on ok) and you will be fine in time. C

Hi Meticula, I guess we are all the same here, wanting to move on & meet someone new to share our lives with & finding it difficult! If we have issues from our exes & our marriages then we will take them into new relationships. I'm going for counselling soon to try to work on this, the last thing i want is to take my frustrations out on a new, innocent man lol
Keep doing what you're doing & let fate take its course, you will meet someone when the time is right for you,
Cindy