Stunned

Hi. With no warning my husband of 5 years and 16 years together told me three weeks ago that he doesnt love me anymore,has no feelings for anyone and wants to start a new life. He packed and has moved to the Midlands. Just like that. He said he wanted a quick divorce, that I could keep the house and that he wanted to stay friends. How that has changed- now he wants as much as possible,is rude and nasty when we speak on the phone and wont consider mediation . I am in shock. I cant believe that he could do this to me. I thought that our marriage was as strong as a rock. One month ago my life was ordered and my future was secure. Now I face losing the roof over my head and all without any discussion. And ofcourse, I still love him. I dont understand what I have done to deserve this nor how I will ever live without him.

Jackie

I am sorry to hear of your abrupt and unrespectful forced end to your marriage. But you have in coming here found the right place to put your life into perspective again. You will need to post again on the general divorce forum giving a little more detail about exactly how far your divorce has gone, marital assetts etc to get a more accurate understanding of your position.

You will find many people with all the experience you need to get the outcome you desreve.

Stay strong you are not alone!!


J

(((((((((Jackie))))))))))) sending you some wiki hugs!

So sorry and welcome to wiki, you are in the right place here to get great support and advice, hope to see you in chat soon.

Take care

Saffy xxx

Hello Jackie

Huge hugs x Am sorry to hear what you have been dealing with. The shock is a real deep hurt that will take some time to abate. The only advice I can give you is to take each day at a time (cliche but true) and to talk, to friends, family and your friends here in wiki. Talk or blog, cry, shout and do whatever it takes to help you.

There are lots of people here who know exactly how shocked and physically and emotionally hurting you are. We are here to listen and hopefully offer some comfort.

Take care x

Jackie

Sounds like reality is kicking in for him ! I dont know how far the Midlands is from where you are and how well he planned that move (poss more than you realise) agree to nothing until you can get your feet somewhere near solid ground. Make sure he knows mediation has nothing to do with putting the relationship back together and if hes really after as much as he can get - there would be alot more left if he agreed to it.

I suspect there is alot more to this than meets the eye (or indeed your eye) so just sit tight and see what comes out. Hopefully more information than you currently have. This is a very rough time but many of us have survived it - so take heart, but we know its very hard.
Take care of yourself