me and getting over it.

my husband of 4 years together for 10 years announced in march this year that he no longer loved me and that he wanted me to leave the house we had built together.

dince then i have found out the reason he doesn't love me is because he has been sleeping with my so called best friend since last december 2007, so he decided that our marridge wasn't worth the work and has bought me out of the house and I have started divorce procedures.

he says they is no rush, i just want free if him, he said he wanted things to be civil but calls me at all times day and night to give me verbal abuse, it was bad enough when i was married to him and he did it but it seems much worse now.

i have moves on am renting a property, took my cat with me and have started to rebuild my life! i used to cry loads but nit as much now, and i feel lucky that i have got the chance to start again and rebuild my life. i may never ever get married again but i'm fine with that i just want someone to treat me right and i'm not going to settle for anything else cause it's my turn for happiness.

Hi SarahW
I'm sorry that this has happened to you, its a horrible feeling isn't it. A similar thing happened to me too, in August my husband told me that he no longer loved me and left me. He came back and left 4 times, denying anyone else was involved and making me feel guilty. Two months later I now know that he has been having an affair since April. We have been married for 23yrs. My two children are devastated.

I read your post with the hope that I can be strong, as you have, and get my life back on track. I can't ever see me meeting anyone else, I was convinced that my marriage was for life.
Thank you for posting, I can see that there is a life after divorce.

Hi Sarah

Sorry to hear about whats happened. Its really a nightmarish time. You do sound as though you are strong and have a positive outlook that you do deserve better - which you do. And that it means that the good times are still to come x

Isn't it weird how they leave you for another woman and then heap the verbal abuse on as well!? Well its guilt, but all they do is make you resolute that they are absolutely NO LOSS to us x

Take care x

Hiya

I know how you feel, my stbx just told me that she didnt want me anymore and told me to go. Left my kids behind and she moved a new fella in straight away!! makes me wonder how long it was going on behind my back as he was an ex.

Anyway, you are on the right lines, your happiness is paramount now and take it from me life does get better!!

Keep in touch.