Newbie just starting my journey

Hi Bunty

Thank you so much for your reply.

I can't let myself think about him wanting to return in the future. If i do i'll be clinging on to something that may never happen. I have to deal with what is happening now. If he does decide he wants to return, whatever the time scale i'll just have to deal with it at the time. Obviously i have thought about what i'd do if he did want to come back and though it would be very tempting to let him, it would be for the wrong reasons.I know in my heart it would not work. It would only be to get my old life back, security, friendship etc and not because i wanted him. It doesn't make it any less painfull though

Hi All

I've been away for a week with my in laws and have just arrived home to find my divorce pack from my solicitor.

It has just suddenly hit me that this is real and it's scaring the hell out of me. Deep down I know that there can be no reconciliation with my husband but it all seems so final. I know it is just the initial letter and court document but seeing it in black and white has knocked me for 6. It was bad enough coming home to an empty house without getting the letter. I should have been expecting it really but i'd kind of put it to the back of my mind. Talk about coming back to earth with a bump!

Hi Dawn, i'm so sorry that you too are going through this, many of us in Wikki have so we know your pain. Its still so new for you & you will feel numb & angry at times. I can only say the pain lessens with time. I doubt very much his affair will last with such a big age gap, his world will come crashing down one day, hopefully once you are over him.
Keep posting, we are all here to help you,
Cindy