keep a roof over my head

i would be intrested to know if any one can help, i bought my house 5 years before i met my soon tobe ex wife.
after she moved in she only contributed around 1/3 (or less)to the house hold as she was not working i helped with here adult education college fees and supported her as she was studing etc
She now want to take a large chunk of money away to 'enjoy her social life' her words.
i have to children from my first mariage and they live with me - i find it very unfair to be told that she is 'entitled' to so much after putting in so litte added to this she has no over heads no children etc

i am not after side taking just guidance on what or how to legally cut this payment figure down so i can keep my house and home -

thanks in advance

Hi mtberuk. How long have you been married? This is important. Welcolm to the site BTW. C

hi and thanks for the welcome - not that i am happy to be here! but thanks all the same

well its 2 years until she left but todate it is 3.5

how does this effect things?

Hi - and welcome to wiki. Sorry you find yourself here but hope we can give you some reassurance. As marshy says a lot depends on the length of the marriage but there is other stuff that is important too ... If you look at this you will get an idea of what wikipeeps need to know in order to give guidance on a possible division of finances.

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...G-IN-THIS-FORUM.html


Hadenoughnow

thanks i will read through that
and sorry if i type in wrong place/site/page etc not used to this type of thing, lol

Hi mtberuk. Its ok you havent done anything wrong. Thats a short(ish) marriage. With short marriages you tend to come out with what you went in with. Therefore seeing as the house was yours 5 years before you married you should come out with all if not most of it. But dont give her any equity. If she wants to go out and enjoy herself she should fund that. But you may have to pay her something eventualy. I know this is tough but this often happens. What you need is a Clean Break setelment. I would go and see a solicitor. Or ring the number at the top of the page for some basic advice. Bon Chance, C

thanks
i am seeing a sol but they just dont seem to be very pro active at all - i went down yesterday after being asked to - he looked at me and asked 'what are you here for?
.............then read throught the note on his desk including several letters from her sol!
he had not read them before and had not acted on them or advised me what she was after!
but they stil ask for more money - its all boiling up!