keep a roof over my head

Hi mtberuk. U have to remember this is a J-O-B for them. They see cases like yours and worse everyday. I got to know my sol well over the year she acted for me. It was an eyeopener. Dont expect sympathy. After all the crap they have to deal with, they get hardened to it all.

They wont read anything until you see them. Its cos they are paid by the hour. If yr sol read anything beforehand then they would have to charge you for it. Remember they are experts at this. They do this all the time. So let them do the job you are paying them for. But remember a client instructs and a sol acts. That is the golden rule. Its your divorce and you should run it how you want. But listen to what your sol says. Try not to be emotional about things. I know its tough. But its just a paper exercise. But you have to do it right. C

Ohh yea forgot to say. At the time my sol was the only friend I had in the world. I know I was paying for her but she was better than nothing. They are in your corner for you. But sometimes she was tough with me. So expect that. But one great thing she did for me was escort me down to my car as she (and I) was convinced that her fat BF was gona deal with me in the court house car park. Dont know what she would have done to a big fat hairy coach driver but there ya go. For that I am truly greatful to her. Why am I telling you this? Feck knows. C

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nice one mate, yeah i know all that and understand it but it just seems to me that i have to do all the work - iwas expecting him to tell me what to do what to get etc.
and because i dont feel i am getting that i am on here.
chatting with hairy blokes! lol

LOL. Yes you will have to do all the work. But thats good. If you do an hours work it saves you about £150 + VAT and maybe more. So do all you can yourself. Usualy sol's are worked off there feet. But once you hand over some green stuff the attitude changes. Thats cos they are "instructed". Before you hand over some wedge make sure that you are happy with your sol. There is nothing worse than having some sol that you dont like. So make sure 1st. I reckon that blokes should have women sols. I think they are much better at this sort of thing. It was great to watch my sol wiping the floor with my ex's Barester. One of the highlights of my divorce lol. C