New and feeling low

hi and welcome, this site has been so helpful to me. my ex did similar after 15 year relationship, told me for my own good so i could grow ahah , failed to omit the woman he had been getting solace with, and slept with while i was away for 10 days, said he was terminating our agreement at the earliest possible stage, - we were not legally married but own a house together. this was end of july, first two - three months have been hell but with support of friends im gradually getting stronger, be there for your kids they will give you purpose, dont let him bully you emotionally - sending you a hug in fact many, it is horrible shattering of ones reality. but i have started to see friends , go out and think about the future, much love to you rhi

Hi, it is so good to relate to others experiencing similar things. I dont think I was courageous staying in a bad relationship but the first time I was so devastated and relieved that he had decided to stay with me, lol, I would have done anything, second time it was with a so called best friend (who had supported me through the first affair) nice lady eh, she dumped him and he refused to leave, I didnt push him hard enough, this was on my fortieth birthday, she bought the gifts for him, nice memories eh. So, i guess I am over him but it took time and we also have a six year old son as well as three adult children so it is not easy but I feel more positive now than I have in past ten or more years but have no one to talk to really.

joystar
you have lots of people here to talk to.
We all understand and many have been through the same.
without going into to many details - I had to live with ex for 6 weeks from announcing he was "unhappy" to him leaving.
It was hell.

Lots of tears shouting and just pure emotional hell.

After he left more of the same - but less shouting.

Some best "friend"!!!

Anyone who is willing to betray and be involved in betrayal are so low and as polar said earlier - there is someone to blame.

take care of yourself and keep posting and reading others stories - it really does help
((hug))

Hi Rhi, thanks for your suppport, I am struggling to keep positive and he is still here!!, every day I am asking him to leave and he goes mad at me for pushing him out, incredible. He says he is leaving on Monday, he is still having affair but I dont think her husband knows and I feel rotten for him. She is much younger and has young family but I am not planning to speak to her, although I sometimes feel like it, or contact her husband. I am glad you are turning the corner it gives me some hope. hug back to you.

You have support here I can assure you as most on here have felt just as you have. Keep talkijg and you will make sense of it all with our help. Take care Polar