New and sad to be here

Hello Soop, and great big (((((hugs)))) to you. I'm sad about your situation but I'm glad you're here. I just got here too, tonight, and even though I'm in unimaginable pain, just like you, already I am getting so much strength from reading some of the posts. Some incredible people on here. Darling, you're not alone. Just hang on to us and we'll hang on to you too. xxx

Cindy, you are so right. Christmas will be hell for a lot of us, but it signals a brand new hope and a New Year = A new beginning. xxx

We just have to hang on.

sweetheart what a sad story but you ahve two wonderful children that will light your way, i KNOW how gutting it is to be left for any other person left at all is hard enough but left for smeone younger is the worst blow

my 'other woman' for my husband was only five years younger but it has made me feel ten years older and how he can change his mind and 'loves her and hates me' within a week, well the fluidity amazes me

you are in a difficult position, ive myself been in many, sat at the side of my sons intensive care bed, sat in a refuge in one set of clothes four sizes too bi for me so really this latest setback should pale, but when you love someone it doesnt

i think you need to remind yourself how special your children are, ALL children are special but in this day and age to get to uni requires real determination, where exactly do you think they get that from? him? i DOUBT it they are PART of you the best part, and look at them, how can a lovely woman how produced such percect children and not be pretty darn special herself.....

remember you are never a sum total of your situation, you are situatins not yet expereinced, people not yet met and loved, you are joy and laughter, tears and sadness too, you are hopes and dreams for your children and the most PRECIOUS thing in the world to them,

remember also they will and should still love their dad, he has shown his all too human failings try not to hate either of them if only because it will make you bitter and hold you back he is a disappointment to them, can you imagine your children looking at you with resentment and true hurt, and as they are old enough to KNOW what hes done to you if not comprehend it, it is HIM not you who should be pitied and him that should feel small

you will be ok sweetheart
you will grow and fo forward to find yourself in a different unexpected but altogether more satisfying place its a bit like siting on a crowded train waiting to go to a posh hotel in say london, to get there you have to go through grimy stations, and sit next to smelly sweaty people and eat bad food, as you get more tired, you come out of the tunnel and start to see the lights of the big smoke, and when your taxi eventually pulls up at the hotel and the concierge takes your bags and welcomes you to the wonderfully warm and luxuiours suite
it was WORTH it all, and you can bask and look back at that horrible but nessacary train journey

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to say thank you for your support... you all know how much it means and your messages are really lovely.

Have been really struggling, quite a few 'duvet days' but know I need to pick myself up, I'm better than this!!!!!

Sue
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