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Hello, not sure exactly where i'm posting here but i'll give it a go!

I have separated from my ex, he has moved out and living with a friend at the moment, i'm buying him out well giving him 30% of the equity and the remaining 20% he will get when the kids reach 18. I have 2 boys 6yrs & 4yrs. Am finding each day a challenge at the moment, and feel quite emotional lately seeing old photos' etc, not good, but then i think about things and they weren't exactly great over the past few years anyways. We split up last year when he found out a few things - he moved out & then moved back in again end of last year. Subsequently he moved back out again in June'08 after I told him the whole truth.

It's all going through the solicitors at the moment, and am hoping that the mortgage will be sorted out by xmas. He sees the kids every other weekend and that's it, no other communication with them, so as you can imagine it's really hard on those boys.

I don't want to go down the avenue of having anti-depressants again, but am thinking that I need them as am so stressed all the time.

Anyway that's enough of my moaning, would love to hear from anyone.

Nat
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Hallo

I was resistant to anti-depressants for a bit, but after my younger son said that I was always crying and my Mum came to stay and I couldn't stop crying, I went to my GP. I am now on a low dose, but its enough to enable me to function more positively without feeling that I am spaced out. I have a tendency to get more down in the winter anyway, so am going to keep taking the tablets for the foreseeable future.

I'm also seeing a women's counsellor which has helped enormously and I feel a different woman from the one who first went there a few months ago.

Whatever you have been through, are going through or will go through, there will be people on this site who've worn the t shirt.

Keep posting.