New to all this

Hi - am new to all this and struggling to deal with all the emotions! basically found out my husband had been having an affair 2 years ago ( for about 2 years!) we tried to work it out and he promised it would end. Recently found out the affair had and was continuing so asked him to leave and started divorce proceedings. Since then found out he has a child with the other women. he has been acting stange since he moved out and has been sectioned twice under the mental health act. He is currently in hospital now but due to be discharged soon and i am frightened as he was threatening me before he went into hospital and there is no sign this has changed. We have 2 children together. I feel like i am on a Jerry Spinger show !!

Mrs - I am not surprised you feel as though you are on the JS show. What a rotten time you must be having. I've got all sorts of questions! Why was he threatening you and what was he threatening to do? Do you have a reasonable bunch of friends and family supporting you and how are your children coping? (I could go on but I won't!) I am sure you are in a real emotional mess at the moment but I promise you things will get better. I am very new to this web-site, but there are lots of people here who will help and support you as much as they can, So you are not the only person to go through something like this and you are not alone.

Hi
Thanks for the message . To answer some of the questions - before he was sectioned agian he was constantly ringing and texting me, saying really nasty things, swearing, threatening to come round to the family home and 'move back in and if i didn't like it i could move out and he would have the kids ( both are girls). Threateneing to kick the door in, drag me and the kids out of the car etc. he seems obseseed with how hard it is for him?, how he should stay in the house and i should move out and how he should look after the kids !! My solicitor saent letters to the childrens school to say they hadn't to let him take the kids as he is mentally ill !On the friends front most were joint friends and don't want to get involved. Work mates are being very supportive though.

Clearly you are going through hell. It is difficult to know what to suggest that you probably haven't thought of already. First of all, have you been in touch with the boys in blue? You are a woman with two girls in the house and have had serious threats made against you. You might be able to persuade the police to install a panic button, although I understand this is usually done for a pretty limited time. As he has been sectioned, I assume your GP is in the picture - keep him up to date and don't be shy about telling him what is going on. GP may not be able to say much to you due to patient confidentiality etc, but that doesn't mean you can't say lots to him. I am sorry your friends 'don't want to get involved' - that's not very friendly. I am surprised they are not doing better as they can't be particularly impressed by him running off and produced a child elsewhere. Thank goodness for your workmates. (PS thank you for your message)