feel stupid

thanks marriaa trying hard to come to terms with this big big hugs back x

Hi roloo

I'm 6 foot 2 and 46 and I cried all over the place when this all started, including in front of my boss! There's nothiong wrong with crying buddy, it's just one way of letting it all out, and it's better out than in.

It's a horrible time roloo, and most people here know what you're going thru, so join in the chat. You will find friendship, support and advice here. You're not alone in all this. It does get easier tho, you're at the worst of it now

Come back whenever you feel like talking

Sun

Hi Roloo

I'm 37 & 5'8" and I wouldn't be here if I hadn't cried for the last 6 months. It's gotta come out somehow, and the crying option seems to be the best.

I even ended up doing the girly thing of making my excuses and going to the toilets at work to cry! They knew! But when the feeling hits you, it has no respect for where you are! I've even had a good blub this week, usually comes after a bout of feeling good & strong.

Stay on here, and we can all cry together, and then one day it will stop, I think.

Heath

Nothing wrong with crying. My Dad cried when he was upset. One of the problems in my marriage is that my ex wasn't able to cry, he let his emotions out by being angry, which isn't at all healthy.

Crying releases the chemicals that make you feel sad, so after a cry you should feel a bit better.

If you find you are always crying, you may need a bit of support, anti-depressants or counselling or both.

But crying is a natural response to grief, loss and unhappiness. It's normal, even if upsetting.

You will see on this site that you are far from alone!

shinyhappypeople wrote:

Hi roloo

Plenty of us here understand just what youre feeling .
stupid ...... dont know how many times ive said that to people ... I just feel so stupid that I never saw it coming , that I missed any signs .....
people say to me , no youre not stupid , you couldnt have known , why would you suspect etc etc doesnt stop you feeling stupid though does it ...... stupid, naive , gullible ..... but after 6 months , I do manage to reason with myself , I was trusting , and would I want a relationship built on suspicion without trust ... no ....

There is no escaping the tears and the upset , I still get upset and cry at the slightest thing , but it is getting better and it will for you too

take care

shiny

good post shiny, your right. I too feel betrayed but I m a good honest person and trust is key to a relationship. As we all believe , I would never have thought my wife would have been the type of person to do that and I have no roof she did whilst we were married, but the speed of everything (100 miles per hour)and her different unsympathetic and arrogant personai which was completely out of character made me suspicious that her motives for ending the marriage were nt as honest as she said. I ve since found out that my mrs kissed and texted another man some two years ago, and again I was shocked, I was originally content to believe she was finishing with me before she did do anything, but now I am not sure at all:unsure:

just read your message thanx for the kind words

hi debs how are you dont let them get you down big hug back adam