In my own world

I have just joined this forum,all new to me!!! I have been on my own now for 18months or so, after 15 years together. I'm not sure where to go with this as I have two kids and feel so lonely and cannot face work or even stepping out of the house ,He moved to a house 5mins from me living with his girlfriend half my age,Im frightened if I see him around the town centre as I have now put on 3 stone in weight and he looks so damn good.

Hi sweetheart... welcome to wiki!

You're not alone here; plenty of wiki users understand your situation, and you'll find support her 24/7. (Can try chat too).

So; only three stone gain? (Lightweight!)

Where are you at with the Divorce process?

Hi there

Welcome to wiki,

I can remember when my ex left me, I did not want to go out, I did not want to stay in, I did not know what to do.
He had moved quite a long way from me so it was not the thought of seeing him that kept me in. I must admit thought the day I ventured out, I was walking down the high street, a friend had managed to drag me out, and I thought I recognised this face coming towards me. Yep it was him, and hiding behind him was his new gf.

I at first did not know what to do, then something kicked in, something took ahold of me, I walked straight up to them both, smiled and said 'Hello **** how are you?'
I then moved my head to one side to look around him towards her, said 'Hello ****** how are you?' She was shaking, she was scared, but I just smiled and chatted.
She was a lot more scared than me that was for sure.

She did not want to speak, BUT I MADE HER SPEAK TO ME I thought you are not going to ignore me you b****h.

Anyway........ I then said must go turned on my heels and walked away. TELL YOU NOW Wow did I feel better.
I had done something that I did not think I would be able to do, and I did it in STYLE. It felt good.

AFter that I could not care a ******** about anyone or anything. It made be strong, and determined that he or her would never make me feel like being a prisoner again.

The first is the worst, after that you will cope.

Go out, hold your head up, show them that you are still there.

Dont worry about putting on a little weight, when you are ready you will be able to sort that out. Walking, will be the start.

So tomorrow, get that coat on, and get striding, because you are worth it.

zara

I have the upmost sympathy with you Jokeaside.Yes I see every other buggar who gets divorced saying Oh I'm so depressed I've lost two stone.
Me,NO!
Would never have got that lucky!
I too am the one who hey big G says I know what Pete just to be really funny you can put weight on!
And then It'll make your chances of actually scoring with a chick just slightly more remote than a Snowballs in Hell!
Look on the Bright side at least you don't have my face to work with!
It does get lonely but hang in there and try not to worry about what the ex is doing I always feel particular great when i pick my kids up from the house I bought which she now lives in with Baldy Barry.It'll get better!
All the best
Pete xxx

hi joke,
welcome to wiki.
depression have all sorts of adverse effect on people,in your case could be over eating but if you do not think you are over eating it might be a good idea to have your thyroid function checked ,you might have under active thyroid.
You should forget what your x or x2b is like ,just look after yourself,use this as an opportinuty or an insentive to look after your health as weight can have associate problems.
If you are not divorced and he has not petitioned yet ,you should start the ball rolling,it will give give you a boost to be proactive rather than reactive.
Now you have joined wiki ,you never have to be alone again.Join chat or message some one if you need support.I will be here if you need me.
You need to regain controll,he is leading his life ,do not put yours on hold.
(((((((GUGS))))))
true beauty is not on the outside

welcome, I've just joined too! I hope we both find some comfort from the site - I already have, and just reading how many other people have so many other problems makes me feel less alone already. I know that place you are in - just stepping out of the house and facing work huh? I do believe loneliness plays a HUGE part in stopping you moving on. Your self esteem sounds like its on the floor and the weight gain is only making you feel worse. It would be good if you could regain some control. Starting the divorce proceedings would give you something to focus on (if not already done so?), and perhaps do what I did and join Weightwatchers? I know it sounds corny, but it will give you a sense of control again. You will also meet new people and you and your kids can enjoy a well-balanced healthy diet. You may think you are not worth much at the moment, but believe me just being a Mum is worth everything to your children. Just waking them up, getting them ready for school, ensuring they have food in their stomachs and clothes on thei backs does not sound too rewarding but its what constitutes for a good parent and should never be undervalued. Its the most important job you will have - go that step further and start to enjoy it. Stuff your ex husband and his new girlfriend - you are the Mum and the most important figure in your children's lives. Stand tall, be proud and try to get to weightwatchers or another slimming group if you can - it really really will help I promise - just getting out midweek and meeting others and talking about something other than your divorce helps really! and you can take the kids too! Good luck and keep in touch. LLx