Hi Fellow wikivorcers

I am in the middle of the divorce process. OMG I feel for each and every one of u. My ex has just offored me 15,000 in an email which was far from pleasent, very petty and obviously an attempt to make me look horrible. My solicitor is sending him a letter asking for 33,000 which is what I should get from my half of the house if things were split 50/50. Is the 50/50 split affected by anything? My children are all 18 or over so they do not come into the eqation. I get 15,000 a year in my job and he gets somewhwere round about 43,000. His pension is not very big but he does have one and I do not. My mortgage capabuilities are very small compared to his. Does any of this count for anything?

Hi there littletill

welcome to wiki,

Sorry, you are half way through your divorce and you do not know where you stand!!!!!!!!! what has your solicitor been doing???

It is hard to give you much advice on the details you have given. If you want to know more, go to the Forum and at the top of each thread Divorce Lawyer has set out some questions. Answers these and then you will get more of an idea.

Be careful with the solicitor's negotiations!!! these kind of letters that they send to each other, resolves nothing, and costs you a FORTUNE:woohoo: Dont get sucked into prolonged negotiations.

These questions ask about,children, mortgages, property, pensions etc. Once you have posted them you will be able perhaps to TELL your solicitor what you expect.

good luck

Hi little. If there are no kids then the starting point is 50 - 50. I think you should work towards this. In effect you dont have any kids as far as AR process is concerned. But remember that kids are like boomerangs and you may need to house them one day. You ought to factor this in when working for a settlement. So you will need at least a 2 bedroom flat or house. If your ex is over 50 he may be able to draw down 25% of his pension as a lump sum to settle matters. I doubt that you would get a mortgage. But I wouldnt buy anything right now. Hope this helps. Welcome to the site BTW. Bon Chance. C

Hi Marshy. I think u r telling me here that the 50/50 split is fine and that IF I get this i should be greatful end of. Well fair enough. I was hoping for things to go a little more in my favour! but my solicitors first offer to him is 50 /50 so im guessing it may go less! Yes I know about kids coming and going LOL. My youngest does still live with me anyway. My ex's answer to my son still being at home is that he can always go and live with him instead (which he does not want to do). I just feel that the difference in our incomes and mortgage abuilities should tip the balance in my favour. Maybe I am just being greedy and wanting compensation for they way I have been treated throughout my 23 year marrage (actually we have been seperated for about 6 years now after he left to be with his girlfriend following a long afair).

Hi there thanks for replying so quickly. I am not sure which questions you want me to answer? Yes I am learning fast that solicitors work for themselves and not on our behalf at all. I used to think that they would fight for their clients! Uff how naive am I. I am having to be on her back about things all the time and was horrified when she tried charging me the same fees twice!!!! OMG! She did appologise but it really does not give me a lot of confidence in her.

Hi Little. I dont think you will get less than 50%. But I would be asking for 60% and negotiate downwards to 50. I dont think you should get less than 50%. The idea is that both your housing needs be met and thats a lot of cash to start you off. Also remember that you have to pay for your legal costs. So the more you argue the less of that 50% you get. Its a trade off. C