Does it work? will it last for ever?

Hello there everyone!!!

Well this is all new to me - so sorry if I do go on.......

My situation is I was married to my ex husband for over 10.5 year we have 2 beautiful children.
Now back in 1999 he had an affaire - and unfortunately at that time I was heavily pregnant with my first child - who I lost to still birth.

I did try to leave our marriage at that time - but he begged me to stay - and was very sorry for what he had done to me.

Well then we were together - but in my heart the trust factor had gone, but for my family ie my parents I stayed with him also I did love him very much. We had a little girl then we had our little boy ....perfect.

Then I decided to move home we needed somewhere bigger and also an investment for the children, we moved and like I told my ex would be a new start for all of us.
I sold my home to my friend -
Well no sooner had we moved to our new start I found out that he was having an affaire with the friend that had bought my home.............. Yep I sold my house and she took my husband.

I was devastated - my children loved there daddy so much and they were destroyed couldn't believe it!!!

I did catch them together - and yes I did lash out but any woman in my situation would have done the same - that’s MY husband the farther of MY children.

Well 2.5 years on I have filled 6 divorce petitions one of which was for adulatory. My ex has not acknowledged any one of my petitions. Now that we have gone to court he has now finally acknowledged the very first potion for adultery. Which has been rejected from the court - insufficient evidence, he lives with her in my old home. So we are waiting as my solicitor has re submitted again - and his solicitors are being a pain in the back side.
He owes me money and is not paying even though the judge ordered him to pay - we are now in the process of an attachment of Earnings order. He hardly sees the children any more when I ask him to help me with them he tells me to go F***k myself.... nice.
He lives in my old home where I had my children and lookes after the other womans child.

At the moment I am working full time and running a home and looking after my 2 beautiful young children - I get so tiered but can not afford to work part time. I can’t rely on family as they too have there own lives to lead.

Please tell me does anyone out there belive in "what goes round comes round"!!!???
I cant move on its so hard i've been on my own for ages now - and so frightened to date anyone, not only that but I am asian and I do find its so hard for me as I have 2 children and no one wants to know me because of this.I know it sounds silly but its so true.

Please let me have your views on my situation as I am pulling my hair out.

Hi jasper. Welcome to wicki. You have come to a nice place and lots of nice people here.

If you mean do those that do wrong get there just deserts? Yes I think so. I beleive if you do bad in life you get bad back. But does it matter realy? The most imortant thing to you is you and your kids. Not what is gona happen to your waste of space of an ex. So look at whats important. You.

I know many that say having kids and so on is a problem. Thats not so. There are many men out there that have had a hard time and are looking for someone nice. If you have a ready made family so much the better. So dont put yourself down cos you got kids. They are not a life sentence. Good luck, C

hi jasper,
welcome to wiki,
i am so sad to hear what you are going through.there is a thread abou this already,take a look at it.
You are better off without him.
never think that just because you are a single mother and asian that there is no future relationship for you.The world have changed,you will meet the right person who will love you and your children when the time is right.
As a working single mum you have to proiratise,house do not have to be spotless,no need to iron evrything or cook everyday.
you must not wear yourself down,
use relatives and have some me time.as you are working ,you need to socialise with your colleague.I hope things can move on for you.
pop in here ,you will have advice,company and a hug too.
((((((jasper)))))