amazing torment

Just read your message your feelings are tangible I do know that craziness you are going through
What I would say as I have found to my cost and I don’t mean to be patronising, feeling very hurt jealous and angry have an adverse mix with drink.
What I found helped was to try and do some kind of keep fit or whatever, mind you since Sunday
When I found out this guys been sharing my bed with my wife it’s all come back to play with my head again (just as I thought I was moving on) and on top of that I’m in court for breaking my court order
Just too really rub it in.
it will get better so i am told daily .thanks for your note .fatboyslim

thank you fatboy slim x

dear furrygwar
just got in from pub starting to feel quite down thinking of my wife .
then i thought furrgwar is going through this ,i was reading some of your notes you sound deeply broken,i feel the same it eats me from the inside out .i dont know quite what im trying to say but just being part of this web site does make you feel for our fellow man/women take care fatboy slim.

Fatboy,

In a strange way I think that you are right. Just knowing you are not the only person in the world that this is happening to does help. I am a broken man in private but I have to face the world each day as if Im okay and fully with it. In private I am in rag order.

I hope the heads not too bad this morning:laugh:

You keep your head up too mate.

Furrygwar

fb when folk say it will get better when we are in the grips of emotional torture it feels like these people are simply from another planet.However,it is true that in time it will get better.
what would really help you wouuld be to force yourself to think of other thoughts when those little films start running through your mind of them together.

From my experience getting hammered at the pub makes it worse alcohol is a depressent and for some if you feel miserable those feelings will be intensifies by booze.Theres also the risk that you get yourself in a bit of bother with the RO if drunk.
The blokes on here will have tips what you can do to divert your attention from them and their liason.

don't worry too much about your breach of the RO its no good beating yourself up but be careful because you are in a vulnerable state what you don't want to do is breach it again.keep busy and divert those thoughts.you will be ok it takes time.

hi jelly4toes
Thank you for your message do be honest, with you since June I have had some quite intense advice
From a lot of different people including a very expensive psychoanalyst.
After about 3 months of drinking to much and generally not being focused on anything I did snap out of it ,since then I have been running and rowing each day,and also going for job interviews ect.
What really hit me last Sunday was the closure of it all ,up to that point she had denied sleeping
With anyone else (she was seeing a guy prior to the this current man but denied sleeping with him)
Knowing that this guy had been coming over to my house for over a month ,and indeed after talking to him told me he was sleeping with my wife,( especially while my children were there) was tuff to deal with.
For the last 12 years I have worked in the city of London very long hours, at the moment being out of work doesn’t help ether, too much time on my hands; there is a lot to be said for having regular employment interaction with people ECT.
I like to think that I am of at least reasonably intelligence and do realise that my actions, and of others on this forum are self destructive, I know with time I will be fine.
Thank you for your kind words it does help. Fatboyslim x