amazing torment

have just joined site after a quick look at peoples views and opinions.
just a quick scribble about my self married 20 years 3 children ,wife left me in june this year for someone else, since then my life has just simply unravelled in to an almost complete mess.
restraining order, arrested three times ,lost job wife sleeping with a new partner in my bed in my house which i have to stay 50 meters away from, on top of that i miss my children intensley.
i could go on but im sure some of you will get the picture.
i know there are a men out there who treat women badly ,but in general most men are decent humam beings whats happend ?

Sorry to hear this fatboy. As I'm sure you have gathered, there are a lot of people here in a similar position, so at least you're in the right place to be understood and have people able to relate to what you're going thru. You're in the bad place right now, where everything is going wrong, and that's an awful place to be. Things will get better and things will start to come good, but there is a mountain to climb yet before you start to come down the other side. Your life will be different now, but different can be good, there are a few very good success stories on wiki lately, and there is absolutley no reason why you can't be another one soon.

In the meantime, you have found a good group of new friends and a place to come to for advice, support and letting off steam.

I'm sorry you find yourself here, but welcome to wiki

Sun

Thanks sun I think finding out this new guy (not the same guy back in June) is making love to my wife
At my house just about tipped me over the edge again when I though I was moving forward.
Any way thanks again for your support.fatboy slim

The images of the two of them together are pure torture. As we've said here before, the best revenge and the best thing for you is to move forward and be happy. You have got the shitty end of the of the stick, but like I say, things will get better buddy.

Just try to sort out your current situation as best you can, don't neglect yourself, including your surroundings, your drinking habits, your work, etc. Lean on your friends as much as you need to, you'll find they mind a lot less than you imagine, and keep coming back here to get things off your chest and chat with like-minded people

thanks sun

Im with you all the way here mate.

I just found out on Saturday that my ex wife is now with someone else and it knocked me for six. I guess I was in some serious denial and had thought that maybe there was a chance I could get her back. But the thought of her being with someone else makes me crazy, I wish to God I could get her out of my thoughts but I just cant.

I am trying to avoid drink as when I got drunk at weekend I ended up smashing up half my house!

Good luck and let me know if you find a cure.

hi fatboy,
welcome to wiki,
when something like this hit us out of the blue we tend to lose focus for awhile,I am sure the fact that you have found wiki shows that you are on the way to recovery.
It helps to have the support from others in the same boat.
Evening seems to be the worst time for everyone so come in chat to whileaway the long evenings,you will even manage a smile sometimes,but you can rant as much as you can and even get some advices and a cuddle.
take care,it has to get better.
xxxxxx