Getting involved again!!!!

Hello. i've been split for about a year now to the day. Just got my own place and am just about divorced for the second time. First time was my fault(adultery).Grass was greener for a while but the second wife got a little possesive it was like having a ball a chain round my neck. Couldn't go out with the boys or even take my kids anywhere without her(that does not mean i didn't want her there at all) It got to the point where friends and my fammily wouldn't ask me to go out at all. I bought her flowers took her out went on holiday that was fine as long as it was with her but as soon as my kids were in the picture all hell broke loose. I tried for a good few years to see if we could make it work but here i am.


I know its give and take from both sides but why do people have no trust in each other. Why do people have to lie about things(first marriage). All i want is someone who will give back what i give them no more is that such a hard thing to ask????

God this sounds so depressing sorry but feel slightly used!!!

Hi there

I was a little confused reading your post as you are asking about trust and lies but you said you had an affair during your first marriage !
Why are you feeling used ? Is it perhaps just the depressing thought of 2 failed marriages .
Perhaps if your second wife knew about your previous affairs she found it more difficult to trust you completely and so became possesive .
I knew about my stbxs affairs with his first wife but I trusted him completely ! more fool me !!
So now I too am about to divorce again ...

take care

shiny