how do i cope

Totally agree with cerealkilla...

Irrespective of whether they actually end up together... now is not the time. You and your wife have some decisions to make and need time and space to decide on your course of action.

Emotions tend to be all over the place at the time of relationship breakdown and judgements about new partners are not good. I couldn't tolerate a 'friend' (close or otherwise) taking advantage in a situation like this - and if he makes a move on your wife until courses are set, then taking advantage is exactly what he is doing. Not a great basis for a friendship and not a particularly great value to hold.

My advice would be to tackle this with him and, as others have suggested, tell him to back off. This really isn't his business.

Welcome to wikivorce

Shezi

clearly they are not just 'friends' like it or noti speak
as i find and you must distance yourself from this 'friend'
at all costs
i would
avoid confiding in him trusting his 'friendship' with you
is more important than his 'friendship' with her
without he is gay fact is she has something he wants and she
is going to give it
i dont know how to put it nicer and wouldnt help you which
i want to do if i did
its inevitable
KILLS blooming kils
but the most important thing here is NOT them shed do it
anyway with someone or other and youd never be abel to stop
it
but the important thing here is YOU

my beloved and he was beloved hsuband went with his ex
of two years two hours after i threw him out for being
horrid to my kids he justified it saying 'well you don
throw your husband out' NO not if they act like a husband
and not hitler, didnt make it ok
her and his justifacation for doing whatever their not yet
or will soon be doing is that out of 'friendship ' you have
given your blessing

DIRESTIEST TRICK IN THE DAMN BOOK really flaming dirty
he cud have picked up any number of hot young things and he
went for her
cos he cud
and she is using this as a power trip

the ONLY tghing you can and MUSt do
a) is protect yourself forget them
b)and remove yourself from the 'triangle' thats making
their liason seem agttractive
if you are not in the picture really how 'strong' is this
love lust
for YOU its the best thing you can do you owe neither of
them anything
and for them its because because you are still around and
giving the emotional 'ok even tho it hurts' that they think
'this empty sex clouded by a flag of friendship and his
blessing makes it more than a more honest empty shag'
FRANKLY

step back
cry howl whateve tell HIM nothin telll her less
paint a smile on your face and tell them you are 'very content#
and you hope they will be too
theyl be so enraged that their shenangigans havent
corrupted you to dust that theyl look at each other in
amazement and start to realise that actually gentials a
relationship does not make
your aim here is to devalue 'the them' and valu yourself
by stepping back

itsl ike a major tantrum with a toddler divert your
attention even if its bothering you to something far more
interesting and the tantrum loses its significance and the
toddler gets bored
and then mum can recover

here if you need me hun
DO trust me on this give them your smile and your blessing
and LOOK HAPPY and say 'dont worry im quite content' youl
get the why why why
u simply say 'thats private' and SMILE
and then go cry