dealing with seperation

My husband left me and our three children in june after 15 years of marriage. I had found out 18 mths prior to that that he was having an "emotional" relationship with one of my friends, he said he had not slept with her. Her then partner showed me some texts in which my husband told her that he loved her. For a while he swore that he was commited to saving our marriage, but it became evident that he was unable to give the other woman up. He is now seeing her. The thing that I find most difficult is facing her, her children are very friendly with mine and they all play rugby, football and cricket together. she seems to be there everywhere I go! I just don t know how to deal with this situation and move on....any ideas?

Hi Ruth and welcome to wiki,

I am fortunate that my s2bx and his 'new love' live 150 miles away, and I have never seen her, and dont want to.

Yes you do need to be free to move on yourself. Are you able to speak to your husband about your feelings?
Do you think he might be sensitive enough to keep a distance between you and her until you are ready to see her in your own time? Its the very least he could do!

It is a good thing that the children all get on.But if you dont want her in your face every where you go then you dont have to put up with it,simple as that. You are hurt and you have your needs , put yourself first and allow yourself to heal.

I hope when you are confronted with her, you stand with your head held high , look after your appearance and put on a front of being happy and in full control of your life, even if this is not actually how you really feel.

keep posting, you will get lots of support here,

hugs, debs