need advice please

HI,

I only joined this site yesterday, am a bit new to all this.

I found out 2 weeks ago that my husband is seeing someone else, mainly through txt messages, hes been giving his number out to women he meets in the pub, he said that I was boring, that he'd have left me by now but the bloke always comes off worse, says we never talk, and have nothing in common, Ive just been holding it in to see what other information I could find out. I am now ready to have it out with him but just wanted advice on what would happen next like would he still be allowed to live with us if I wanted him out, we have 2 small children.

Things have been going downhill for a while mainly because he makes me feel worthless, does nothing around the house, and never gets involved with the children, he just tells them to be quiet if the tv's on. He goes out when he feels like it and if hes not working he's always in bed. Its no life.

Any ideas

thankyou

Littlecloud x

Hi Littlecloud,
You're right - it's no life for you - first, look forward to having a better life once you're shot of this miserable excuse for a husband. Second, I don't think the law can force him out of your home unless he's been violent, but do you really think he wants to stay?

Work out the minimum you can manage on financially without being uncomfortable (there is a great benefits calculator called entitledto.co.uk which will tell you exactly what you'll get when you're on your own - whether you're working or not - you may find you don't need his help as much as you expect and you could show him he'll be able to leave without being crippled financially. Perhaps you'll be able to afford to make the break yourself? That would be a turn up! I'm managing with two kids right now and no money from my ex; I'm far from loaded but I get by and I'm free!. Best of luck and stay strong.
Rootoo

Hi rootoo,

I have looked at that entitled too website, its really good. Must admit I am panicking a bit about how I will manage money wise, with nursery fees etc. I just cant think straight at the moment.

Thankyou for replying, that was helpful

Littlecloud x