Hi Folks.....

I came back from a business trip to Leeds, to find out two days later - that my wife no longer wanted to be my wife - and that was the day after we made love. Nothing seemed wrong at that point.

So far I have moved out, and got mixed signals, until last night - I got a call to ask me why I had been on a spending spree on the cards - but I hadnt ..... I stopped using our cards on 2nd December and cut them up.

Given the fact I still have access to the banking system I looked at our online account, and I can see when I stopped using the cards, but she kept on using them (to the tune of nearly £1000) anymoney I used I paid for.

She wont speak at all to me now, and has no reason to want to talk to me apparently.

I am just so down.... I really dont know what to do.

Animo

You must be feeling completely devastated - I am really sorry.

There's a great community here, so you will find lots of help and support. You can ask questions on these forums or join in with the chat.

One thing is for certain and that is that there are others here who have suffered in the same way that you are suffering - so they can help you and tell you what has helped them.

The other thing is that, when things get better (and they will), you can help other people who bring their problems here - and that is what this community is all about.

I hope you feel better soon.

Hi and welcome to wiki

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.

Its so hard when your partner doesn't want you anymore, i know, it hurts like nothing else on earth.

Use this site and take the support offered, it help knowing you are not the only person going through this.

I spoke to my ex last night, I had to fix something at her house - she brought along a male friend, whom she has admitted she has feelings for .... I cant say I was completely 100% impressed, but I then got to the stage of thinking "So what, we're over" - I can see this going badly at some point, but I aim to keep it businesslike and professional .... that way I can have some detachment... I actually smiled when I got home last night.

That's quite an emotional leap forward - but don't expect you progress to be in a straight line. There will be times when you feel OK and know that you are coping and have a life to lead. But there will also be others when you feel immensely sad and want to curl up in a ball in the corner of the room. When that happens, try to remember that you also have those better feelings. Forewarned is fore-armed.

Bloody good for you Animo

I found myself in a similar situation and the best bit was
when I left smiling to myself. It was the start of my new life and the relief was evident

Look on the bright side mate - its a big wide world out there